To be pissed off with DH?

[unfitmother]

I have an OU exam tomorrow, my first exam for 20 yrs.
I am quite stressed as the revision doesn't seem to be going too well, (2 young dcs, full time job), don't know why.

DH works from home so I was relying on him to take to the exam centre which is a high school in a part of town I have never been to before.

He only goes into the office once a week and went in today so I though I'd be OK. He's just announced he has to go in to the office again tomorrow so can't take me.

In addition, I go into the lounge to see if there's any way he's started the dcs tea to find him fast asleep on the settee. He got really grumpy when I woke up so I had to go and make it.

I can't believe I'm not getting more support!

IABU?

YANBU re the kids' tea
but prob a bit U about the lift, tbh
Natural to be anxious but he can't do the revision for you.
Good luck for tomorrow.

Well, no - of course you are BU... THis is something that's important to you.

But, I wonder if there is more to it than that? Does he not WANT you to do this course? Might this lead you to a job you enjoyed? (You sound like a SAHM?)

I'm currently training as a teacher and my DH is less than supportive. He doesn't really want me to work and I'm actually considering (when I do work) of keeping my wages for myself as I'll still be expected to all the housework and childcare.

Do you have any alterative arrangements for the exam or will you have to miss it?

Oh no, I'll be fine, I can drive myself.
It was the emotional support I was after, I don't want to be stressing out getting lost in an unfamiliar part of town - plus the extra 10 mins revision time in the car would have been handy!

harimo, op has a fulltime job by the looks of it. Op, yanbu. He needs to be more supportive.

I'd get a taxi anyway if I were you. I remember frantically driving round Manchester years ago trying to find the exam centre and getting really stressed.

10 minutes revision really isn't going to make any difference!

Good luck!!

Yes, a full time job.

Sorry, Don't how I missed that!

Don't worry about an extra 10 minutes.

BUt, get a taxi so you are not stressed!

(and make your DH pay for it!)

I think you should put the emotional support or lack of it out of your mind and concentrate on your exam prep.

Then in a few days think about whether your DH should have been more "with you" on this, or if it was actually fine. If on reflection you need more from him - have a chat about it at a non-pressured time.

Hope you get all the right questions anyway!

Aaahhh! I'm going to kill him!

DCs are running round screeching (i.e. have left the table) and he hasn't even got them a pudding. How hard can it be to get a yoghurt from the fridge?

He's not usually this useless - why today?

Not sure about your DH but I've got my OU exam next Thurs and wanted to give you some good vibes

Apart from what you're revising, try to focus on coming out of the exam and the relief you'll feel that it's all over, the high is worth all the shit Good luck!

You're just feeling it more because of the stress, he probably usually is genuinely that useless.

How'd you get on??

Hope it went well for you.

I think it went OK, thanks

DH redeemed himself and took me in, we got lost and only just made it.He forgot to come and get me though.
Don't worry, he does have some good qualities. He's putting dcs to bed whilst I have a well-deserved large glasss of wine!

He forgot to come and get you?? Glad it went OK