Dh and I have a work schedule where my busiest day of work comes when he is at home (and the children at school). We have a nanny for the rest of the time when both of us are working.
We needed to speak to the neighbour about some building works that they are doing and I asked dh if he would do it while I was at work. He said he'd rather he waited for me to come home and then we do it together. I protested and he got all grumpy and said he wanted us to speak to them together.
This is just an example of some of the things that happen. He HATES doing anything like talking to workman, garages, neighbours. He is lazy but he is also quite unconfident with dealing with stuff like that as he believes everyone knows more than he does (as he's not knowledgeable about all that sort of stuff) so it stresses him out. However, his job involves speaking to people all the time so it's not like he can't do it, I think he is choosing not to.
When I bring this up, he gets ultra defensive and it always ends up in a row and I'm just fed up of it. All I want him to do is take some responsibility on his own without me feeling like I have to do everything. He says he has enough responsibility as he takes the children to school every day and helps with the chores and he moans enough about doing all of that!