Sorry its an MIL one but only a quickie, just say YANBU! ;0)

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AIBU...to be pissed off that, it being my DH's first day back at work since our 3rd DC was born 11 days ago and I'm a leetle panicky, the only contribution my MIL has to make is repeatedly asking me "How will you cope?" or "What are you going to do?" ad nauseum?

I mean, either a) offer me some bloody help instead of making me feel completely useless, or
b) shut up, as its completely unhelpful and demoralising even if you think I'm completely useless and can't manage, since I don't have any help and will just have to muddle along and hope for the best.

I normally wouldn't pay the slightest attention, but its really niggling at me. I didn't know I was thought to be that useless.

YANBU

Nana I said that a lot of these threads are about respect for others and being thoughtful and not judging or the lack of those qualities.

I never said there was a problem with you wanting support I just observed that you seemed to want support. Maybe if you do set up your own post about dil's that you mentioned earlier, then you will get mil's posting?

Anyhow on this thread, the op has posted in a balanced manner and as have others.

nananina- I think I might side with you on this one too.... I sometimes get the feeling that a lot posters on MIL threads are the ones being overly sensitive or ever so slightly irrational...

(not in this op I hasten to add- all very reasonably put and responded too....)

Nana thank you for standing up for MIL, like you I am one, and I get on very well with my DDIL.

We both love my dS, and niether of us feel the need to be superior to the other, after all I had Ds for 27 years to myself, and I was more than happy to hand him over to her

Congratulations! You'll never understand whether people's comments are well meaning or not regarding your kids especially mils. I've just had our 3rd son and there's a 19 month age gap between him and our toddler. We also have a 7 yr old. Our families live in different countries so when they come to help they stay for a while which is a bit draining. With my mil I feel under pressure to chat which is exhausting when I'm sleep deprived and cherish my rare quiet moments. Some how you just muddle through by yourself. I've had moments when both tots are squealing at the same time or all 3 are sick when I want to run away but a lot of the time its great fun and you just get on with it. I get a lot of 'sympathy' from mums at the school who have one or two children and it bugs the life out of me.
Don't let it get to you you'll be fine.

Hi WailingG - nice to meet another MIL on here! I'll look out for you on other mil threads as we seem to be few and far between.