To be a bit annoyed at a comment another mum made about my daughter.

[mummyloveslucy]

My daughter is 4.5 and has quite a severe speech disorder. She also has some other developmental issues that only family and the school know about. Her speech disorder is very noticable so every one knows about it.
Anyway, we had come to pick up her up from school when we saw that all the children were wearing their P.E kits and trainers. My daughter was still in her uniform though. I casually said in front of two other mums "I wonder why my dd's still in her uniform?" One mum then said "maybe it's because they have to dress themselves now." I thought that was a strange thing to come out with. Then I remembered and said "Oh, it's because her kit is at home, I forgot to bring it in."
I do feel a bit annoyed that she just presumes that my daughter can't dress herself just because she can't speek clearly. (She can't dress herself btw) but that's not the point.
Her daughter is extreamly forward and is always very much in charge of who ever she's playing with. I just felt a bit judged and don't really know what to make of it.

how insensitive of her.yanbu. i think she was having a dig though.

I agree with Jux, it doesn't sound like a jibe. More like an observation of a relevant factor.

Just ignore her - ignorant thing to say...

But I am a bit at all these people who know what their child's IQW is..... why ?

IQ !

People speak from their experience not yours. They live in their own world not yours and aren't always thinking about how you might take something, only how they meant it. The rude way of saying that is that someone else's world doesn't revolve arund you or your DD. It was just a playground remark. Making conversation.

Better thing to take from it, imo only, would be to work really hard on your dd with dressing herself and not to forget PE kit in future.

the way i read the op, i thought that the other mum was suggesting that most of the kids were still in pe kit because they couldn't manage to get changed themselves and the teacher thought it was easier to let them go home like that..

are you sure that's not what she meant? maybe she was commenting on her own daughter needing help to get changed and you read more into it than there was?

i agree that it is VERY frustrating when people comment on/make assumptions about children though

about the lady on the bus

People speak from their experience not yours. They live in their own world not yours and aren't always thinking about how you might take something, only how they meant it. The rude way of saying that is that someone else's world doesn't revolve arund you or your DD. It was just a playground remark. Making conversation.

Better thing to take from it, imo only, would be to work really hard on your dd with dressing herself and not to forget PE kit in future.

The previous poster who said'not to overthink it' - good expression! -hit the nail on the head. I would have assumed the other mother was trying to to be helpful, rather than judgemental - and ended up by unwittingly upsetting you. Not everyting is intended to offend! As others have said - forget it, remember pe kit, and in parallel help her to dress herslef if that is an issue.

Thanks everyone.

JojoAgogo - That is so sad. I can't believe they won't help him and make him do PE in his underware. That is bound to make him appear different to the other children. You'd think they would at least sort his shoes out. Poor little lad. Do they have class room assistants that could help him ?

mummyloveslucy he is in afternoon nursery atm, and they have no assistants.

To be honest he does not seem to notice/bothered that he is dressed that differently so they seem to leave him to it when it comes to pe.

The worst think that has ever happened reguarding his speech was one day on the playground with DS waiting for DD he ran up to 2 ladies, 1 had a scooter and my DS was asking her about it, she looked and her friend and laughed then said to my DS in english please,..

I was
I walked home crying.

I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. It was probably an off the cuff remark and probably something that i would say because all the children are very young. I think that you are being a tad oversensitive because of your dd's speech problem,partivularly since this woman's child is quite forward.

forget the other mum's comment. try not to take it to heart, she probably didn't mean anything malicious.

JojoAgogo- Peole can be so rude.