to sell on things given to me by others?

[Astrid28]

Hello,

I am an anti-clutter freak and periodically sell bags of childrens clothes/toys etc on ebay.

DD is in a good position as a few of my friends have daughters a year or two older than her so we get alot of clothes handed down.

Once I've been through the bags and picked out what DD will or wont wear I'm usually left with a bag full of stuff.

I've just been adding these to my ebay bags - but it occurred to me today, the second time I've done it, that maybe I shouldn't.

What do you think?

I think it's a bit poor form.

I would ask if they want them back and, if not, then give it to charity or freecycle.

Obviously there is nothing wrong with selling things you bought yourself or even things given as gifts but if I had given friends my unwanted things I would not want them to sell them and pocket the cash.

...but then surely you should take them back then fruitstick? If they don't want them back then OP can do what she wants with them, surely?

I think it is rather tacky to profit out of stuff you have been given by a charitable friend. Maybe if you don't want/like some of the items, instead of selling them, you could offer them to another friend, or if there is no-one you know who needs them, pass them on to a charity shop. I would feel rather peeved if I gave stuff away free only to find that somebody had chosen to make money out of it. There is also a chance that your friends might know somebody else who could use the things you don't want, so why not offer it back to her first?

I have sold stuff in the past.
But you do see threads on MN where ppl are very upset (sometimes for complicated reasons) about stuff they gave away being sold on. I guess what I would do (ideally) is ask the giver if they mind what you do with the items when you finish, "They may have some second hand value". If they mind the idea of you selling them on, then I suppose I would offer them back to the giver.

A lady (who was emphatic about not wanting more DC) gave me some used size 4 infants Nike trainers (not that I'm into designer anyway). She never said anything about wanting them back later.

DS wore them a little, then I Ebayed them for about 4 quid. Soon after she asked for them back; seems that the person who gave the Nikes to her wanted them back for her own little boy. There was shock at how little I got them for on Ebay, and very upset about what in the world she was going to tell her friend. I didn't know what to say!

YABVVVVVVU

You are given stuff for free and then instead of continuing the nice tradition of helping other parents out by passing on the clothes (or giving them to a charity shop if you don't have anyone to give them to) you make a profit out of other people's generosity?

Yuck, yuck, and thrice yuck.

I have a friend who passes on a lot of clothes for my DC and, in the baby stages, some equipment too. She always says that she doesn't want it back and to do whatever I like with it.

I tend to pass on to other friends, give to charity shops or sell it on ebay but give her the money as I know they're a bit strapped for cash at times. She doesn't have an ebay account so can't sell it herself.

If its just occasional bits and bobs of clothing that I sell I leave it a while and then just give ger ,say, £20 when I see her and explain that its from selling it on ebay.

Definitely YABU. They were GIVEN to you, you should pass them onto other people/charity. If you'd bought them then yes, feel free to sell them. But you didn't.

Have to say, this is why I stopped using Freecycle - when I found stuff I'd given was being sold on ebay.

I think its bad form.Put it in a charity bag

YABU . Pass them onto someone else! I only sell stuff that I bought or was a gift. All the hand-me-downs are again given to other people. I'd be bloody annoyed if people were making cash out of stuff I'd passed onto them in good faith.

Why dont you just buy their DCs something with some of the profit you make, like some pjs or underwear. That way they are getting something back as well.

Well I would probably ask the person that gave it to me. If they agreed that I could sell it I may be inclined to give the money to charity unless I was very much in need. My sister gave my cousin a nearly brand new pushchair in perfect condition and I'm sure she'll either sell it or give it away without so much a mention to my sister and I think she is very unreasonable.

However clothing I'm really fine with.

YANBU

If somebody gives you something, it then becomes yours to do what you like with. If it's quite a big thing or a valuable thing, ask before they give it to you if there's anybody else they know who might need it more.

I give bags and bags of stuff to my little sister, tbh it's decluttering and I don't care what she does with it. She wears some of it, gives some to her friends and bungs some of it to charity I expect. If she sold it then who cares.

The exception to this would be tickets that you don't want or can't use. I remember once giving my friend 4 unwanted tickets to something and then her bragging to me how much cash she got for them!! Wasn't really why I gave them to her.

Btw, to all those people saying 'give it to charity', what, so that somebody else can buy it cheap and flog it on ebay?

i personally couldnt do it, just wouldnt feel right. I get given loads and also give away a lot. TBH I would rather take it to charity shop.

Hmmmm well, after much deliberation, I haven't ebayed the stuff but instead have decided to do a bootsale in the next half term.

I'm taking my friends older daughter with me and the clothes left over from her Mums bag will be hers to sell for Xmas money.

I do try to give to charity, I donate things to our church rather than sell them (ok, I did that once!) but it's just my nature to think I can sell that for a few quid for my savings (we're saving for a house). I'm a SAHM, we're not on the breadline, but it's my way of contributing something.

Thanks for all your views on it, I'm pretty pleased with the decision I have come to. In fact I'm off to groom my angel wings right now

I have some friends with dc of opposite gender/age to mine so we swap clothes (ie I give them my girls clothes for thier younger girl and I get boys clothes from her older boy) so I would proably sell these on because we both benefit. But I get some stuff from a friend who I can't return the favour to, and who would never sell on (would give to charity or friends) so I make a point of always giving things from her away rather than selling.

I don't think you're doing a bad thing. Some people can't be arsed to sell on ebay and give it to you to get it out of thier house!

They gave it to you, it now belongs to you to do with as you please. They can't expect you to keep all of it can they? Personally, I'd probably freecycle/charity shop it, but then that's because I do that with clothes I don't want of my own! do what you want with it

YANBU and I really don't understand the attitude of 'it's fine to sell that which was given to me as a gift, but not unwanted things that were given away'?

I think the important thing is that stuff continues to be re-used, whether it is given away or sold, the only bad outcome I can see would be to chuck it all in a skip when there are people it could be of use to.

E-bay is a huge faff and if you are prepared to do the work for a small return then good for you, the giver could have just as easily sold it but chose not to.

In the same way I would haveno problem with anyone else seling something that I had given them and expressly said that I did not want back.

I'm not sure judging other brings particually good karma .