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To NEVER go out again? ok I know I am but I am really shaken up and upset

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TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 12:46

I took ds2 to a play group this morning, this was a huge step for me as normally I only do things with the 2 of us...Afterwards I had to do some shopping so went to my local halal butchers to buy some lamb.
As I came out and was happily walking along with ds2 in his pushchair a black man (this is relevant) walked into the pram so I turned it to prevent him 1- falling onto ds2 2- stop him hurting himself. Cue him start shouting and swearing at me telling me I had deliberatly (sp) run into him...I apologised, as I knew as I turned the pushchair I had knocked his leg, asked if he was ok and he began screaming and shouting that "You people always do this" I started to walk and he followed me still shouting and then started threatening me and ds2, who thankfully was oblivious to what was going on. I walked into the local supermarket as by now I was getting upset and scared and he shouted "I am not just a black man I am not a Jamaican I am african and I will kill you and your ugly white son". The security guard came over to see what the problem was as by now I was in tears, I had said sorry but he would not leave me alone.

The security guard ushered me to the cafe where i sat still crying and went to find the man. he came back after 20 minutes and said he had a desription of him and when he came back to the store he would talk to him, and he would barr him if he was not satisfied with what he said. TBH I just wanted to get out and get home but had shopping to do I was so embarrassed that I sat there crying. I really don't want to go out again and I know I have not got all I needed in the shops because I just wanted to get me and ds2 home.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 20:42

Thanks All Of you!

The worst thing is last week I finally went to my gp about the way I was feeling about some things, one of them being my fear of going out without dp. So this morning I really felt great going to the M&T group with ds2. I am meant to be going back Thursday and am already panicking about going.... and yes i know it sounds silly.

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ChilloHippi · 29/09/2009 20:47

It doesn't sound silly at all. Just try to focus on the fact that it is HIS problem, not yours, and he probably wouldn't even recognise you if he saw you again.

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 20:51

Chillo, I know and thats why I think it sounds silly. I will take ds2 to the M&T group because it is right next to the police station .

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girlsyearapart · 29/09/2009 21:07

Poor you.

No he doesn't sound harmless at all.

Had similar experience in Sainsbos when I was heavily pg with dd2 and had dd1 who must've been about 11mo with me.

Was in baby aisle and a man was there effing and blinding asked him not to swear around my child he had massive go at me so I had one back.

He (and his pg partner) were escorted out of the store and I was escorted to my car in case they were waiting.

That was after I burst into tears at the till...

It's just not what you need is it??

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 21:20

Gya, I can normally respond/ignore people like this but for some reason today i just broke down. It was as if all the hard work I had done in getting out today (trust me that was a big step for me) has been undone.

I know I have to go out again because if i don;t i will struggle.

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cheesesarnie · 29/09/2009 21:26

sounds horrible theladyevenstar!

im glad you enjoyed the m and t group-shame this man spoilt it.do try to go back.were behind you!

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 21:31

I haven't told anyone until today about being so fearful of going out alone (aside from GP, and he said it is PND.....didn't know that it could linger for 2 yrs) and now I have told you all!!

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girlsyearapart · 29/09/2009 21:35

Didn't mean to imply that you should've had a go at him TLE. Hope you didn't think that?

Was just saying I also burst into tears- after he left thankfully.

Do your best to ignore and keep up the good work on getting out x

cheesesarnie · 29/09/2009 21:38

thats what were here for!PND likes to rear its ugly head when you think its all ok.

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 21:40

Next step is to leave ds2 for longer than 10 minutes we are very very attached to eachother lol.

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cheesesarnie · 29/09/2009 21:43

thats ok.hes your baby-he will always be your baby as hes youngest!im far clingier to ds2 than i was to the other 2 and hes the only one i didnt have pnd with!it will come when your both ready.youll hate it and love it.

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 22:02

Cheese oh he is my baby lol. I had a very very speedy delivery at home (less than 5 minutes) but he then spent 5 days in scbu, where they were really horrible to me and wouldn't let me touch him even so when I got him home i would not put him down. Now when I am apart from him I get in a state.

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comewhinewithme · 29/09/2009 22:32

Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 22:35

CWWM, I hope so too....I think I may make some mince pies tomorrow...in the saftey of my own home.

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groundhogs · 29/09/2009 23:29

Oh OP, i had no idea you were already iffy about going out of the house too...

I'm struggling with this too, since I came home to Uk from abroad. Trying to get a grip, taking St Johns Wort, and trying to go out on own. It's hard, and for this to happen to you, that's awful.

Try not to let it get to you, you will have a better day tomorrow. Sending huge hugs!

TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 23:47

GH, I have been like it for a few months now, unless dp is with me i don't go out often unless it is important. But after talking to dr last week i knew i had to make an extra effort, then this happened.

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thesecondcoming · 29/09/2009 23:55

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TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2009 23:59

TSC seriously??? lol poor buggers.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 30/09/2009 00:00

anyway must away to bed...hopefully I will feel better about it alltomorrow. Because today all i have done i keep panicking and getting tearful. Which is very unlike me..I am the naughty noisey one normally.

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