to think DH could make more effort on the personal hygiene front?

[lisbey]

Until recently he has done a manual job which left him filthy.

He would shower and shave as soon as he got home from work and go to work in the morning, as he fell out of bed (did brush his teeth)

At weekends he would have 1 shower and 1 shave a day. i.e if he was going to be gardening later, "there's no point showering in the morning" regardless of what might have gone on during the night , or how warm it was etc.

I always, without fail shower when I get up. If I need another one later, I have it.

I work (in an office) with a load of lovely, sweet smelling, perfumed men and I do find myself wishing that he'd make the same effort.

He now works in a office, but has stuck to the same routine and always comes home stinking, which must be horrid for those he works with. It's weekends that bother me TBH, because he's just not nice to kiss/cuddle unless it's within an hour or so of his evening shower.

He also refuses to shave more than once a day. I know some men don't need to, but he does and because he shaves in the early evening, he spend most of the day looking (and feeling) decidedly unshaven.

YABU. You want the man to shower and shave more than once a day?
Unless he has a medical problem, that should be sufficient. I think you secretly fancy at least one of your "perfumed, sweet smelling" collegues. Which sounds revolting to me to be honest, I like a man to smell like a man, not a bunch of flowers!

lisbey - I get showered and shaved in the morning and have a good wash in the evening unless I have been doing a very hot and sweaty job in which case yes I wil have a quick shower in the evening too but ot another shave. If I do it the other way round with shower/shave in the evening and and just a wash in the morning I look and feel rough and stubbly and dirty by the end of the next day. In that sense YANBU.

However, it is slightly odd that you do not want to be near him unless she has showered/shaved within the last hour. It seems you want him to always shower/shave twice a day which is unreasonable unless he has a medical condition that causes him to sweat a lot or he has medically induced BO. I know a few that do get shaved twice a day who have very fast growing beards but it is fairly rare.

It depends on the crcumstances but unless there are specific medical reasons then it would be unreasonable to expect him to shower/shave that much. I assume he wears clean clothes every day? Does he really need to go and see a GP rather than just shower/shave more often?

I'm inclined to agree with ABetadad. One shower and shave a day should be sufficient at the weekend surely unless he suffers from excessive sweating or is doing heavy manual work. Does he wear antiperspirant? Wear clean clothes?

Seems quite excessive for me. Perhaps he does have a problem. In that case you need to talk to him about it as it can't be pleasant for you, him or other people.

Try hanging pomanders off him.

My DH showers a couple of times a week - and should really be showering every day! He is a Teacher, so on his feet all day - pacing the floor of the classroom, no doubt!! And I'd be lucky if he washes his hair once a week!

He asked me to cut his hair for him a few weeks ago (I have done a few times before). Can't remember the occasion but something important next day.. So got the scissors and comb ready whilst he washed his hair and made a start when he rejoined me.

His hair was still so greasy and full of dandruff that I asked him if he had used any shampoo! I was literally heaving - I couldn't get the comb through the tangles and dandruff!

WELL!! I made him go back and wash his hair again - with instructions how! - The man is 50 FGS!

• that's him, not me!