Got a call from the bank this evening to tell me that, for the first time in about 20 yrs, I've gone over my overdraft limit I had to leave work about 18 mnths ago, when DD was 15 months cos my T&C changed so drastically, I couldn't stay there. DH and I agreed that it would be a good opportunity for me to retrain and spend time with DD and DS. In reality, having to leave my job has hit me like a bullet train and totally destroyed my confidence. So, from being used to always having my own money, i now have to rely on DH for everything. He doesn't want to have a joint account, so pays money into my current account. Anyway, told him the bank news and he just had a massive go at me, telling me how pathetic I am, need to get over losing my job, get a grip etc. I told him I feel pretty shit at the moment and not very happy, to which he told me that it's "all about me" and I need to grow up. Just wanted him to give me a hug really and look after me . so, do I need to grow up, get a grip? HE does work really hard, so I guess he's got a point. Everything seems too confusing and like wading through treacle tbh.