To think that this is a bit wrong?

[SunshineAndKittens]

I'm currently expecting, so may be over reacting. Plus I do not have any actual children of my own.

A very good friend of mine had a baby 5months ago. She decided to breastfeed her as it is cheaper than formula.

However, 4 weeks into bf and she couldn't be bothered with it anymore. She wasn't having troubles with it, in fact she seemed to be a natural. But she wanted to get back to smoking and drinking. Which I suppose is fine, its her life etc.

So she puts baby on formula, it appears that she is still hungry after a feed so they double feed her, til she is sick (not sure if this is normal, because I have no baby of my own to compare with, or any friends with babies)

Anyway, it becomes clear that she is loosing some weight. So to bulk her up, they opt for feeding her the 'hungrier baby' formula. This seems to be doing its job, but hey are still double feeding her til she is sick.

When he was 8/9wks old, they started to feed her pureed fruit and veg. (I'm fairly certain this is wrong, but again have nothing to compare to, and am only going by what it says in baby books) I expressed my concern, about it being a bit early, but she says that because he is sooo hungry that this is the only way to keep him satisfied, so I don't know if thats right either.

When he was about 3 months old, the 'hungry baby' formula wasn't keeping him satisfied during the night, so they started to feed him cows milk. But they put a spoonful of sugar in it..... I asked if this would do damage to his teeth, but she says he swallows it straight away, and it doesn't touch his teeth. so he will be fine.

I wonder if I am being a nervous Nelly over nothing. Because I am currently looking after a bump and not a baby, I don't really know how things work iyswim.

I feel a bit daft, and think that maybe I am being unreasonable, and should probably just keep my nose out.

But wanted to ask...

TIA

SunshineAndKittens....is your friend taking advice form her mother, or someone else ofthat generation?

This type of feeding was probably common place 40ish years ago.

People do seem to get very het up about on mumsnet about baby weaning, which is why I think you have been given a hard time.

I don't know what info there is out there at the moment, but,it wouldn't hurt to tell her you were reading in a book leaflet about babies not geting enought nurtients from cows milk /purees at this age.

Was that at me or the OP, JustAnotherManicMu?mmy

OP - if you are genuine, i would probably jusy concentrate on folowing the guidelines for your own baby. TBH if your friend is the type to put sugar in a baby's bottle, she is probably not the type to listen to some well-meant advice from a friend.

The OP LynetteScavo. Wouldn't dream of being so rude to a genuine poster like yourself.

I think 4 months is the very earliest for pureed fruit and veg and 12 months for cows' milk-no sugar though.I think flier's suggestion is excellent.good luck with your baby.

can some experienced mners tell me what makes you suspect a post may not be genuine-I just assume they all are

Just because an OP ticks all the boxes for a wind up, doesn't mean it necessarily is one. The OP comes on for advice, and because one or two posters think its a wind up, the OP doesn't get the advice/help she/he needs.

I think that is very unfair.

Its not as if she started a debate about weaning ages. She appears to be genuine. And just because she chose a stupid username, she must be a troll