To be FUMING with dh?

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

I have to go and pick my parents up from Luton airport this afternoon, and it's much easier (because of room in the car etc) if it's just me and dd, rather than me and dd and ds. So dh promised to take ds to London to visit the Natural History Museum and, "Look for dinosaurs." Ds was absolutely thrilled, and has been very excited all of yesterday.

I had a bad night with dd, and so dh got up with the dc at half 7 this morning (hardly the middle of the night) so I could have an extra hour of sleep. He brought them back up, both crying, with dd needing fed (she is bf, but I don't think she's had any breakfast at all) both still in their pyjamas, no attempt to get ready at all.

Dd has gone for a nap, and dh has crashed out in bed with her. I've got ds dressed and packed the nappy bag, then took dh a cup of tea and told him ds is ready to go (ds by this time nearly hysterical with excitement), dh promises he'll get up, 15 minutes passes, I go back upstairs, hiss in dh's ear that his son is downstairs, ready to go on the day trip that his daddy promised him, dh says he'll get up. Another ten minutes passes, I go back upstairs, kick dh in the arse, tell him to get his arse downstairs and tell ds he'll be going soon, dh promises he'll be down soon.

That was half an hour ago. I'm running out of things to tell ds/distract him with. Ds is going to be devastated if they don't go, I can't take him to look for dinosaurs, the best I can do is a long trip in the car to Luton fecking Airport. What the fuck do I do?

Also I'd be extremely pee'd off if my partner was to keep pestering me every two minutes to get up when I had explained I was tired and needed a nap (unless it was urgent or he needed help with hte kids). It seemed to be neither in this case. Although it seems perhaps you were tired so a bit that you'd been up in the night and it was him getting a nap. You should have chilled out and relaxed on the sofa whilst ds watched his dvd.

You don't leave the house till lunchtime? Well, considering they only got home at half 7 this evening, I don't think leaving at lunchtime would have been much use! Also, there was problems with the trains, so it was lucky that they did leave a bit early. And I had to leave at half 12, not half 1!

Dh did take ds, and they had a great time, apparently. They did the Natural History Museum, and the Science Museum and then ds crashed under dh's friend's desk at the V&A for half an hour! Dh, OTOH, is knackered!

There was problems? There were problems!

Yes, we often left the house at lunchtime.
It fitted in with DD and I.
Sometimes we left earlier, other times later, but generally we didn't go out early as it didn't work for us.

If it doesn't fit with your DS than that's fine, but it wasn't clear from your post and I was offering an alternative point of view.

It seems all has worked fine and they've had a great day out.
Perhaps next time you could leave your DH to it and trust his judgement, rather than nag at him?

If i'd left it up to dh they wouldn't have gone at all as he wouldn't have even got out of bed till lunchtime, by which time I would've had to go, so getting to the Tube station would have been too much hassle and he wouldn't have bothered.

I think that dh napping when I've been sleeping in 20 minute snatches for the last week or so is what enraged me, really. He did get up, and he did have a wonderful day with ds so I shouldn't whinge, really.

How many times can I say really, really? I need and edit button.

Go to bed.
Let dh get up with the children.

I don't think she was nagging at him

I think perhaps Urban knows her dh a little too well & was pre-empting him disappointing DS so was doing her best to ensure it didn't happen.... that's the way I read it anyway!

Plus she's the one who had no sleep last night... so why does dh get to have a lie in? No adult with the responsibility of children just gets to shrug them off when they can't be bothered... or at least they shouldn't be allowed to!

And if urban was leaving home after 12, was dropping them at the tube before that, then 10.30am is about time he was up to enable him to wash, dress, get breakfast & a bag ready... not lie until 11.45 and hope that Urban has it all done for him - as I suspect her dh knew she would have done if she had to wait much longer!

Let's give her some credit for knowing her dh well enough to know what he's like, eh?

Need to get dd to bed first GO. Am on iPhone next to her cot with her chewing mynipples off nursing.