To find competitive parents and their children quite up themselves

[Danthe4th]

We have been friends with a family across the road for nearly 10 years 2 of our children were close in age and good friends. But over the last year it has got to the point I can't stand them anymore, they are quite sporty as are we, but the difference is we do it for fun they have to win. I wouldn't mind but I have always brought my children up to be proud of their friends acheivements and to say well done if they do soemthing well, but they never do they never pay any interest in our children anymore or ask how they are, where as I do. I know the children are growing apart but thats fine.
The thing that really pissed me off was this morning when the son came running over to mine and said i'm going to james party and you're not, I was so proud of my ds7 when he turned round and said 'wow thats great but when its my b'day i'm going to invite both of you, is that ok mum'
I hope i've taught them well but in this day and age are all children going to be competitive and unpleasant.
God i've really waffled but thats been bugging me all day!!!

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Op's son sounds lovely. Other boy sounds like a horror.

Op-well done you are raising a lovely boy.

Although I feel that competition in itself isn't wrong, I cannot abide anybody who gloates at another's misfortune such as with the party invite situation. What an awful child your friend's have raised.

The consolation will come when they undoutably meet a superior who will wipe the floor with them.

Many years ago when I was about to go to high school and the system was heavily streamed, I managed to get in the top class (class 1). My best friend was in class 4. We were both happy. A friend of her mums was apparently gloating saying how fantastic her child was as he was in class 2 and basically she didn't know of a single child who had done better than him and got into class 1.
When she asked me what class I would be in my friends mum's eyes lit up.
Hence her silence when she heard my reply, she could barely force her mouth to smile.

Both my friend and her mum were wetting themselves laughing afterwards.

I remember getting my GCSE results (just, it was LONG ago ) and I was sooooooo happy to get a B's in Science at it was not a strong subject for me. I recall one girl asking me and I told her - she replied "That's quite good.......I got A* btw"

I HATED her in that moment, and yes, all these years later took some smug satisfaction when she popped up on facebook and lets just say she does not exactly have the glittering law career she and her parents were always bragging she would have

I blame her Mum tbh - she was awful, pushy, domineering, over bearing..... sounds like you have done a GRAND job with your DS OP - good for you!

Thanks everyone its always interesting reading everyones views.I suppose the issue is also with us as I just want an easy life really, I hate falling out with people and I just like getting on with everybody and I like my dc to do the same.

These people aren't competitive. They are rude. Competiton is healthy. "I'm invited and your not" is just plain not nice. Humility is a good thing. And definitly the mark of a civilised winner. This kid has few things to learn about winning. Your child shines in comparison. So, really I;d say he is the winner.