To Not Constantly Pander To 17 Year Old DD Who Broke Her Leg Skydiving?

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She has been skydiving for about a year and often goes abroad with her dad. In August she broke her leg badly and is still on crutches. While I am doing wht I should do, and clearly need to do, ie lifts to sixth form and what not should I be fussing over her all the time around the house, she seems to think I should. I feel that if it's her choice to do something so dangerous which she KNOWS I wish she wouldn't, should we be expected to mollycoddle her when it goes wrong even though I had 2 small children, one with ongoing medical problems? Give it to me straight...

Yes, she is very mobile, she can walk about the town shopping and at school all day and what not.

Hi Quint, he travels constantly and has 'no fixed abode'.

YANBU

Do'nt pander to her.

It doesn't sound like you ABU.

I broke my leg two days before my A levels started as a drunk 18 year old and was in plaster up to the hip for 16 weeks. Parents gave me lifts to college/exams, but if I went out I went on the bus, including coming home from town at night on the last bus (although that does seem a bit harsh now I read it!).

That said she could have given herself (and you!!) a pretty nasty scare and be feeling a bit small and vulnerable, so be needing a bit of extra reassurance and attention. I think you are right not to let her milk it though.

YABU. She is 17 and broke her leg. She needs a bit of symphony and mollycoddling.

Lol at 'Symphony'. Which on? Unfinished? Bittersweet?

OP - don't be so harsh. Have a bit more sympathy. I think your harshness has more to do with your dislike of Ex and his extravagant hobbies than you think.

Of course you should be helpful and pander to her. She has a broken leg. I am sure you would appreciate a bit of pandering yourself in the same situation. Anyway, it's not forever.