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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want a simple "thanks"

28 replies

MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 00:00

Is it just me or does everyone else hate it when they take loads of time replying to someone on MN and they don't thank you for the effort?

I'm not talking about little snippets or advice, but proper, "ok, hear's how you do it" posts.

I would always thank anyone for taking the time out of their day to help me, so AIBU to expect the same in return?

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volunteervole · 18/09/2009 00:16

No, I agree with you MermaidSpam
Thank you for posting!

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 00:18

Ha ha! And thank you volunteervole for replying

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PandaEis · 18/09/2009 00:21

mermaidspam YANBU imo i tend to offer alot of advice and i seem to be largely ignored never mind a bit of thanks i just would like to not be the invisible thread killer for once thanks for bringing it up
any particular thread in mind??

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 00:23

this one

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Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 00:24

I know how you feel Panda!

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thumbwitch · 18/09/2009 00:28

what's even worse is when you spend ages typing up a really helpful reply, it is apparently ignored, and then someone posts almost exactly the same stuff later and gets thanked for it instead of you! That really gets my goat.

And thank you for starting this thread to allow me to vent that.

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 00:31

Glad to be of service!
x

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SomeGuy · 18/09/2009 00:38

IMO you should find it reward enough to make the post, any thanks are just an afterglow to make you feel even better about yourself.

PandaEis · 18/09/2009 00:47

thumbwitch im usually that girl too!! i seem to have my well meant advice ignore in favour of MNparrot repeating it and being rewarded with attention-crackers it is an MN bugbear of mine

BitOfFun · 18/09/2009 00:53

My very first post on here (under a different name) I poured my heart out to share a situation which I thought would help. Nada. Zilch.

That OP is still on my shit list

PandaEis · 18/09/2009 00:53

mermaid i see what you mean if it were me i would have thanked you
someguy if i ask a question on here and people give advice or opinions i always say thakyou...its common decency no?

PandaEis · 18/09/2009 00:54

wel i actually say thaNkyou but you know what i mean

thumbwitch · 18/09/2009 00:59

oh ah, I've just looked at your thread - it might help you to know that the OP is in fact aspergic and therefore she has probably ignored your post on the grounds that she isn't going to be earning £20k and it therefore doesn't compute as relevant - not just ignoring it for the sake of it!

HTH you to feel a bit better, although of course this thread is entirely relevant to lots of other threads and OPs!

milknosugarplease · 18/09/2009 01:58

it does SLIGHTLY annoy me, but im a relative newbie so cant really say it! (that it annoys me not thank you!)

whilst were all here, THANK you for replying to my posts especially my "anyone who has a nnany/aupair" one, that was A* advice!

they dissaper of my "threads im on" and i forget about them!!

milk

xxx

BitOfFun · 18/09/2009 02:34

Stp doing the milk xxx thing though, honestly!

I mean this as a person who knows you and will always notice you here- it is something people on fluffy forums do! You will slip in with the hard nut always here posters if you drop that, honestly!

milknosugarplease · 18/09/2009 09:12

am actually quite upset that i'm becoming a shock horror bounty person!

discoball · 18/09/2009 09:29

No, YANBU, it is simply good manners to acknowledge a reply - you can at least do a general "thanks everyone" at the end of a post and maybe respond individually to someone who's put in a lot of effort to a reply! I always respond (or try to)!!

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 12:26

Thanks Thumbwitch - didn't know that.

Cheers everyone, am not so unreasonable after all!

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milknosugarplease · 18/09/2009 13:24

spam hows work going? x

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 18/09/2009 23:57

Fine hun, she's been ridiculously nice to me last 2 days! Fingers crossed!

How's things with you?

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Tinfoil · 19/09/2009 01:32

It's always nice to be thanked, and reasonable to hope for thanks, but IMHO there's a difference between that and expecting to be thanked, which will often lead to disappointment.

alwayslookingforanswers · 19/09/2009 01:41

aww the OP of that thread is lovely.

She drove over to me (and it's about 1 1/2hrs drive iirc) earlier this year, picked up a van (which she paid for as it had to be in her name the credit card - and then I paid her the money back) and spent the entire day helping me and one of my RL friends moving furniture.

And then she found me an organist for DS3's Christening as well.

milknosugarplease · 19/09/2009 01:52

well at least that's something!...if she does start, then give her hell kid

things are ok thank you 'cept my dad (i still live at home) seems to have the dreaded swine flu...seems only a matter of time before i have it!

what does the weekend hold for spam?

Original poster
MermaidSpam · 19/09/2009 12:02

Oh no! Hope he's ok?!
Not much doing this weekend. DD is at my Mum's tonight so lots of lovely sleep is in order!
You?

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millenniumfoxtrot · 19/09/2009 12:05

it does bug me, but i'm sure i'm guilty of leaving threads dangling because i get distracted, or getting into a conversation with one person on the thread and forgetting to thanks everyone else who contributed. once i've left something a day or so i assume that no-one would actually read a thanks post anyway, but i should try to remember to do it.