to start my (law) degree this month when I'm expecting a baby in January?

[BarbieLovesKen]

Is it that unrealistic? I know its going to be hard. I'm expecting that but its something I really, really want to do - for quite a while now and have figured there will always be some reason to put it off "til next year"...

Some of you may remember myself and DH have been having alot of problems and with MC this year etc I also thought it would be nice to focus my thoughts/ energy into something like studying instead of over analysing/ thinking things over and over and over.. which is making me feel so so down. Also thought it would be nice to get out two nights a week for a couple of hours when on maternity leave.

I know I work full time and have dd whos nearly 4 and I know how hard it is to have new baby in the house but am I that completely disillusioned? - I thought it would be ok but have had someone put the whole idea down so so much that now I feel like Im crazy for thinking it.

She said things like:
"not going to be possible with new baby in house"

"going to miss too much when giving birth" (I thought maybe two classes but she seems to think Ill need weeks),

"you dont even know how much this will involve, do you?"

"good luck cos your gonna need it",

"you should have gone for something more at your level - I know of this course that blah blah and you only do one exam at a time - might suit you better - more simple"

"your mad.."

I know it doesnt sound that bad but it was so patronising and horrible and I cant help but let it get to me.

I'm actually really upset, I had to do an entrance exam which was fairly intense and college called and told me that mine was excellent and well above average, so I was really chuffed with myself to be honest and its completely taking the good from it and I'm really disheartened about things.

Could you please be really honest? am I being unrealistic about the whole thing? AIBU?

VulpusinaWilfsuit ? I laughed so much at your message but do appreciate it, particularly with you being a University Lecturer as I started to panic and feel nervous about how I was going to be received on Monday when I?m very obviously pregnant. I hope (and would have assumed) that it wont be an issue. Thank you.

Mumoverseas ? I love the honesty ? it?s completely what I?m looking for but also you do make it sound achievable. Can understand the whole ?easy? thing but congratulations on everything you?ve done ? you sound wonderful.

Underactivethyroidmum ? wow! The very best of luck to you, but I?m sure you?ll be fine by the sounds of things, thanks for such a lovely post ? the having a little something on the side other than nappies and bottles is appealing to be honest.

Serennos ? congratulations on your pregnancy!, its lovely to know I?m not the only one ? You sound like you have good support. Just a month between us giving birth/ starting course ? will have to keep in touch, would love to hear how you get on.

Kitstelsmum ? Congratulations! and good luck to you too. Such a lovely message and you are obviously very, very right ? I should get her job when I get back

Racmac ? that has given me more hope that this is doable? that its not the end of the world if I miss a couple of classes. Thank you.

Loobylou2 ? I understand completely what you are saying but again, I just feel like there is always going to be a reason not to do it, or to do it next year, I could be pregnant again for all I know. I do understand though.