for being upset with my husbands choice in courses?

[AphroditesGrannyNightie]

He is trying to get into a better mindset after long term depression.

We talked and he suggested a course to boost his confidence and future prospects.

We talked alot about teaching assistant and he sounded enthusiastic.

Hes just come home and signed up for a 'criminal psychology course'

Oh that would be interesting, what's the problem?

Its just that I thought he was doing a teaching assistants couse because it fitted in with the type of thing he wanted to do, holidays off,

and now this seems really far off from his target and a bit useless!

Why on earth would that upset you?

What do you mean the sort of thing he wanted to do?

maybe he feels he want a better paid job in the long run teachers assistant are not paid a lot of money in general..

I don't see the problem.

He is doing something is in genuinely interested in so will be more likely to stick with it and enjoy it.

I think good for him, he's seen something that interests him and gone for it - probably a very positive sign as far as his depression goes..?

Does he have a plan of what he's going to do once he's finished the course?

How long is the course?

Sounds like a great course!

your dh having autonomy,choice,interst are all positive factors in overcoming depression.

think about it

he has expressed an interest
has aspirations and hope of completion
depression is a debilitating illness, sapping confidence and self esteem dont crush him by opposing the choice

do support him in his endeavours and praise this. it is a big step for him

whether you are being unreasonable depends I think on whether doing a criminal psychology course is likely to knacker you financially or not right now. In terms of future prospects - something that genuinely interests him is likely to be a better bet than something that doesn't interest him so much, however more practical it might seem in theory

YABU. It's his choice and he chose to do that course. Doing a teching assitant course won't get him a very well paid job.