to be annoyed that my partner tells his ex wife about our rows?

[feelingreallylow]

I have been with my partner for nearly a year. He has a daughter from a previous marriage and gets on with his ex wife well. She is there for him when he is in trouble of any kind. We have a 2 week old son together and whilst I was pregnant he cheated on me with a person that was supposed to be my friend. This so called friend now has befriended his ex wife and as you can imagine me and my partner do row about his cheating. My main problem is he tells his ex wife that we are rowing about it. Am I wrong to expect these things to be between us, it makes it even harder that his ex wife is friends with the girl. He was with his ex wife for 7 years so she knows what hes like etc but this really bugs me that he keeps telling her our problems, I feel that there are some things that he doesn't need to tell her. AIBU?

[cruelladepoppins]

This is dreadful. I don't know what to say.

YANBU.

But you would have to be very modern to want to keep having babies with men who aren't good to you.

Babies deserve a happy family. Relationship counselling? Even if he won't go, go on your own (or with new DS, at any rate!) This may help you decide if you would have a happier family without DP. Happy family needs a happy mum.

But, if it doesn't work out, please for your own sake and your DCs, try and make sure the next man is worth sticking with before you have any children with him. Sorry to be so blunt.

FWIW, I married DH with children very much in mind - I am not the love of his life but he would never, ever cheat on me and the DCs. I'm not saying I would leave him for one slip, but I definitely would if he kept on doing it. Not so much the sex as the total lack of respect.

[cruelladepoppins]

Forgot to say - someone else saying he loves you is meaningless if he doesn't do it!

[2rebecca]

Why does he not tell you his problems? I wouldn't be happy if my bloke had anything other than a discuss the arrangements for seeing and paying for the kids type arrangement with his ex.
I'm the one he's supposed to confide in if he has problems. Why did they split up?
If you are rowing alot then your relationship sounds dodgy anyway. Only couples in soap operas have regular rows in my experience.

[2rebecca]

If a bloke I was with threatened suicide if I left him that would just make me run twice as far. Emotional manipulation is for clingy losers.