to stop my dses (4.5 and 2.5) from using the words 'stupid' and 'shut up'?

[oregonianabroad]

Am starting to think it is a losing battle. However, I think these words are aggressive and rude, and I don't want them saying them in my house. But I hear loads of other kids and parents using them.

Just in case anyone thinks we are prissy, we use lots of other words other people might find offensive: fart, poo, bum, anatomically correct words for body parts, etc. It is the aggression I don't like, not the taboo word itself, if that makes any sense.

Waiting to see if I get flamed for being silly.

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I agree I don't like mine using those words at all.

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we were never allowed to say shut up, or stupid as young children. I think it's ugly.

YANBU - I don't like those words at all (and feel bad if I ever use them).

Nooo your not silly. I'm currently going through this with ds with the words stupid, punch and naaaaarrr (no). I think i'm losing the battle at times but I just keep persisting in the hope it will stick.
I heard a family say the other day 'eee x look at this sexy trolley do you want to get in?' WTF?

YANBU- I actively dislike both words/ expressions. I don't like 'bum' (that'll be unusual on MN ) or 'bad' either. But then I'm a prude.

YANBU we tell DS (nearly 3) that we don't say those words, playtime with us ends if he does this, same as if he starts to get too physical in his games with us.

yanbu

fart's ok though

YANBU. DD is horrified by the word stupid. It isn't one that we ever use, so she was shocked to hear her friend say it. So shocked in fact that it was the first thing she told me after school. X said that a book was stupid.
I don't like the word fart, we use pump but maybe we are posher than I think.

YANBU - I don't like hearing mine say 'you're naughty' either

I'm posh and I say fart!

YANBU - we don't say stupid, shut up, idiot, hate, bad etc

But we do say poo, bum, fart etc ... and fall about laughing when we do!

We ban stupid and shut up too. In fact we have a running gag in our family when someone is being particularly annoying or noisy,someone says "Permission to say shut up to X" and the other two people have to give perission. This applies to dp and me too. But that's just us!

A family I used to work for (as an AP) did not allow their children to use these words. I once said 'stupid'. Not aimed at a person but at an object. I was met with shocked cries of 'You said the S word, You said the S word.' In my head I was thinking, 'Oh Shit, I've said Shit in front of them'. No one had told me that 'stupid' was a swear word.
I do agree with you though that these words are really not very nice. However at times you will feel you a fight losing battle. The eldest had a school reading book that contained both 'stupid' and 'shut up'. He really enjoyed his reading homework that day.

we don't say those words either, but I don't ban words (except the obvious ones ) they are just words

yanbu, I hate it both of them. XH says 'shut up dog' as does my nans partner & they think it's funny when DS says it but I hate it.

I don't think any person is stupid or an idiot etc, they're just not thinking about things in a logical mannor & with more help could do it. same a I don't believe in the word 'can't' people can mostly are choosing not to iycwim.

we do use poo, weewees althoub we say trumpton not fart. I draw the line big time thou at arse as in sit your arse down as nans partner says.

We have the 'S' word (Stupid) and amusingly, DS(7) also looks upset if he hears what he calls teh 'C' word (Cute, which I dislike intensely). The difficulty in maintaining these conventions is, obviously, school :-(

Good, am glad I'm not the only one. Seeker, that's so cute, I might have to try that.