to pay for childcare out of the joint account?

[JaceyBee]

or do most of you wohms pay it from your own salaries?

I currently work part-time - around 20 hours a week. I work for the NHS so the money is shit.

Dh is self-employed and works long hours but for not much money as most of it goes back into the business. We both pay our wages into our own personal bank accounts and use out joint a/c for bills, mortgage and most groceries and everything else we pay for ourselves. I usually pay for dc's clothes/shoes etc.

I currently use a childminder for one and a half days a week for dd as ds is at school and family help out the rest of the time.

Dh has just queried a cheque that's gone out of the joint a/c which is the childminders fees, higher than usual because she had both dc's during school holidays. I've been paying the fees out of the joint a/c for a while but he's never said anything before.

If he comes home and kicks off, do you think I'm within my rights to say that childcare should be a joint expense (my first feeling) or aibu to think this and should it be my responsibility to pay for childcare if I want to go out to work?

[eleveld]

If you have to have separate accounts then I absolutely agree with Bergen on the way to do it