to hate hate HATE the phrase " as a mother"

[NoahAmin]

for eg
" as a mother i think its bad a kid has died"

fgs

my mother used to do this in a sort of "suffering pieta" wounded martyr way when trying to manipulate one of us into doing/not doing something

"because....I am a MOTHER, that's why, Greensleeves"

such NOBILITY [puke]

I once said "so are all the other women of child-bearing age on our street, for fuck's sake"

and got twatted round the head

my mum used to do this staring at us as we watched tv.
"i am just admiring my handiwork"

now as a mother I knwo what she meant

I've never come across it before but now I hate it... grrrrrrrrrrrrr.... ahem.

Speaking as a mother I'm highly offended by all this.

As a mother, I particularly hate hate hate the phrase 'he was just so full of LIFE' being said about someone who has just died - usually tragically and prematurely or whatever.

I guarantee that nobody has ever said this about someone while they are still alive.

I'd pay money to hear someone say 'he was a miserable twat and never bought a round and no one liked him'

And since when have 'bouquets/bunches of flowers' become fucking 'FLORAL TRIBUTES'????????

YANBU

It conveys that before I was a mother I had no opinions worth listening to.

And that I did not suffer as much as those who had given birth.

I also hate, "It was just one of those things" when something terrible happens. What things?

Also

as a mother my opinion and experience over-rides all known medical and scientific evidence.

BelleWatling Mon 14-Sep-09 16:12:54 Add a message | Report post | Contact poster

"as a mother my opinion and experience over-rides all known medical and scientific evidence."

well have you ever tried saying to a medical consultant: "excuse me but I have read the relevant articles in Rheumatology and you evidently have not"?

doesn't go down well, I can tell you

you're far safer just sticking to the emotional mothering stuff

there are medics out there who see any reading up on the subject (the kind of thing some of us do naturally on any subject we come across) as a sign of obsessive interest bordering on Munchausen

YANBU it is really irritating. and a bit smug aswell. like people who aren't 'mothers' can't feel the same sort of empathy for disasters or negative events.
bleugh.

A df of mine says "I am a feminist so I don't expect women to cook, but as a mother it is so worrying if my ds doesn't eat properly so I spend alot of time cooking."

You can have conflicting feelings as something else and as a mother at the same time.

I don't use the phrase, but I have noticed there I get more upset about certain news stories and situations now that I have children - ones that involve children I mean, not major disasters etc. But I wasn't uncaring or unfeeling before, and wouldn't presume that people without children wouldn't also find them upsetting - it is just different.

as a mother I worry about people not having a sense of humour

fariy nuff!
very clearly argued.
sorry that sounds like a teachery thing.
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