nice lady lives in my cul de sac, very kind to ds.
a few weeks ago ds got himself locked in a neighbours house (long story. anyway, there was me and owner of house standing outside door trying to talk ds through lots of different ways to get himself out. he was complying. so nice lady sees what is going on and comes over. i step back and let her go to the door and she does exactly what i was doing. ds gets door open and i thank her and tell ds to do the same. i was grateful, but i was doing the same thing and it would have come to the same conclusion so why did i take a back seat and let her do it?
then today 2 older kids came and tattled on ds for doing something naughty. i asked ds and he said he did so we went outside to put right his wrong and nice lady came out and said she didnt think ds had done it. i asked if she had seen who did . she said no but she didnt think it was ds and that the other two children had a habit of blaming other kids for their mischief. so she crouches down and asks ds who did it and saying its ok noones going to get in trouble, just tell me who did it. and i find myself saying, ds you tell nice lady who it was. again letting her take over. ds did say again that it was him and she took his hand and started helping him clean up. what is wrong with me? she is a lovely lady and she means no harm whatsoever, i am glad that there is someone looking out for ds but why do i just let her take over like that? i dont let anyone else do that, not even my mother so why do i let her?