Or am I being precious?

[TheWorstWitch]

Have a 2 year old DD and volunteered to look after her 2 year old friend plus 6 month old baby brother while her mum went off to a meeting. Another friend of ours (who has a 2 year old and a 4 month old baby came to help out).

I'm just wondering if I'm a bit precious or is this okay?

Friend tells us 2 year old DD is fully potty trained, but she ends up peeing everywhere in my house including my bed . And when collected by her Mum, her mum says that she is fully potty trained, but just doesn't tell you when she needs to go .

6 month old is crying desperately and I realise that he is probably hungry. My friend who is helping me babysit tells me to hold off giving him any milk until all the children are ready to have a nap so he can nap with them. But the baby was screaming and I insisted on giving him his milk when he wanted it.

Friend then put her 4 month old in my bed to sleep, despite me having put out a mattress on floor for the babies, and then she half covers him with our duvet.
At nappy change, she also left him on our changing table and said he didn't know how to roll yet.
I know it's been a while since my DD was a baby, but I thought that you should never leave them as they might roll anytime. And never cover them with a duvet.

I've also found out that my friends leave their children in the car when they are sleeping to go to the shops, etc.

I've never done any of these things with my DD. Am I being a bit precious, and should I lighten up a bit, or are my Mum friends just a bit ose?

curiositykilled very funny, I'll tell her that when she returns the favour.

I know I'm being very precious now as I'm sterilising all DD's toys, just in case they have pee on them

I am always much more cautious over safety when I am looking after other people's dcs than I am with my own - I do not know their reactions as well as my own dcs, and would rather not risk horrifying friends with my own lax ways!

How would you feel if, having left friend's baby unattended on change table, said child then rolled off and was seriously injured? wouldn't you rather just use a mat on the floor and avoid any possibility of an accident?

Better safe than sorry, as my mother always says!

some people haven't understood the op? the friend who left baby under the duvet/on the table was doing these things with her own baby, the 4 month old - not the babysat 6 month old. Am I right op? In which case, her child, her choice I think. I might do the duvet thing depending on circs but probably not the changing table thing.
As for the rest, not bu I think.

To me a potty trained child is a child that will ask for the potty/ toilet when they need to go. If they have to be regularly toileted and just wet themselves if left alone they haven't yet learned that a full bladder sensation means you ask for the potty and aren't potty trained.
I think the joint babysitting wasn't a good idea. You should have made it clear you were in charge and you were deciding where the sprogs slept etc.
If she's really a friend though I'm surprised you didn't raise these issues as they came up at the time thoughy.

I think putting your baby in someone else's bed when your friend has told you where to put the baby and it isn't in the bed is a bit off whatever type of cover your friend's bed has. The changeing table thing is the friend's responsibility.

It is always hard doing things with friends when they have different ideas to you (as in one), particularly when it comes to children as everyone thinks that they are right.

Have to say I would never leave my 3 month old unattended on changing mat for longer than a few seconds. It is a recipe for a serious injury.