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OK, sort me out re feeding friend's cats nightmare

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Hassled · 08/09/2009 09:28

A friend asked me to feed her cats for a fortnight in August while she was on hols. She doesn't live far away, I like cats, no problem. When I went round to collect the key, it became apparent she was under the impression I would be there first thing in the morning, and last thing at night. I didn't say "yes, that's fine" or "no, sorry, that's too much, I'll go in once a day". But when people have fed my cats, I've only ever expected once a day.

Anyway, some days I went twice, mostly I went once. The cats are on the dried Iams anyway, so it wasn't like the food was going manky. I washed the bowls daily, sorted litter tray, put bins out, took bins in again, etc. For 2 weeks. I did register that the friend's parents were clearly around - post picked up some days before I got there, leftover chicken etc in the cats' bowls.

I went on hols the day friend came back so I just put keys through the door on the last day. So that would have been around 20th August. Since then - nothing. No text saying thanks, no phone call, nothing. I've texted her re something else but no response.

All I can conclude is that the parents sussed I wasn't there twice a day and she's hacked off about it. I can't think of a single other explanation. So which of us is being the most unreasonable? Or AIBU for assuming she'd have been in contact by now, given that we usually see each other quite often?

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BubbaAndBump · 08/09/2009 20:54

I have two cats who are fed on IAMS. When we're away we leave bigger bowls of food and water, and ask a neighbour's kids (who love cats and literally live next door) to pop in every two or three days to top up water & food. We then give them choccies and a card etc on return, and certainly go over to say thank you.
Your friend is being really rude! If I were you, I would phone or text to say is everything okay? I haven't heard from you... etc and then make her grovel

Let us know, I'm curious! (curiosity killed the cat though, so maybe that's the wrong adjective to use )

groundhogs · 09/09/2009 01:22

Does sound odd, have you only tried to text her? wondering if she got that text...thinking perhaps she lost mobile???

Call her at home, and ask her how she is.... Think you have every right to know IF there IS anything she is unhappy with.

mathanxiety · 09/09/2009 04:13

And you sorted the litter box too? YANBU

Hassled · 09/09/2009 16:04

UPDATE
At school pick up this afternoon, there was a bellow of "Hassled!" across the playground. Friend gives me a big hug, apologises profusely for not being in touch, presents me with a bottle of Chardonnay and a large box of chocolates. And a thank you card complete with paw prints from the cats .

So sorry to have wasted everyone's time. It appears I put 2 and 2 together and came up with 546 .

But on the off-chance that friend is a MNer and read this yesterday, then S, I'm sorry I washed our dirty laundry in public. And what goes on Mumsnet stays on Mumsnet.

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GibbonInARibbon · 09/09/2009 16:13

Aww super!

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/09/2009 16:16

lol at this thread and 'what goes on MN stays on MN'

stealthsquiggle · 09/09/2009 22:36

Maybe it's taken her until now to get the cats to put their paw-prints to the card because they are sulking about the one-visit-a-day regime ?

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