My first AIBU (regular but namechanger) so be gentle!
H and I are having problems - to put it mildly! After a particularly fraught day we have a calm conversation about the prospect of splitting up. Ahhhh the relief - until H says that he intends to "fight me all the way" for residence of the children and if I win he'll never see the kids again.
FFS this is a man who routinely does absolutely sweet fa with regard to both kids (9 mths and nearly five) yet seemingly believes that he can handle them 24/7. Not altogether surprising in itself (first sign of knobbiness) but I found his second comment just horrifying. Why would you just abandon your kids just because you didn't win?? So they meant enough to you for you to try to wrench them from the parent who does the majority of the caring but not enough to make sure that they retain a bit of stability in their lives when you separate?
I'm not being unreasonable, am I? I'm prepared to be perfectly reasonable - I mean, he may be a shitty husband but up until now he's been a perfectly acceptable father. I would be pretty open to him having as much contact as the kids could handle. It feels like blackmail to me - "if you leave me I'll put you through hell and then leave my kids without a father" - or perhaps I'm over thinking it...
Whatever - I think he's a total knobend. Hopefully someone will agree...