to be bloody annoyed at DP!

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my dad lives near dubai, and has said to us that if we get DP and DC's passports he would buy us all flights to spends xmas with them.

i was obviously really excited by this but has just been told that DP wont pay out for the 3 passports as he has better things to spend his money on and is uncomforable about going to the UAE.

i can understand for he has never been abroad (hes 32) and to go to such a cultured country can be daunting. but people have been telling him the is tough out there about drinking and tattoos and that he wouldnt be able to hold my hand when walking down the street, but it really isnt that bad and there really scaring him off.

i have really tried to reassure him but its not sinking in and we could be missing out on such a great time and for only the cost of passports! and i may not be seeing my dad next year as he wants a year off from coming to the uk (it is quite tough when he comes home cos everyone wants a peice of him)

i feel so upset and annoyed! not sure what to do, thought id post on here cos i only would have emailed my dad and would have been mean about DP.

i just wish DP was more open minded. his lack of an open mind really gets to me alot.

sorry rambling now ill shut up. thanks for reading. xxxx

I understand what you're saying. I have to pick my moments with DH sometimes! Do try though. I'm sure he's not that unreasonable that he won't at least listen to what you've got to say.

Pay for the passports yourself and go without him

thank you maureen, x

kim, please read the rest of the thread. x

No one is saying to go without the kids.

Take them and leave the boyf behind.

I agree with FabBakerGirlIsBack.
Can´t believe he´d begrudge you 100 for passports to visit your father.

I don't think the other half is just a boyfriend though. They just aren't married! Maybe I'm being as daft as the OP and maybe I'm not, but the poor guy has his reasons for not wanted to go abroad.

I don't think it's because he is being controlling at all. I think he is genuinly apprehensive about going abroad. Give the poor bloke a break. Not everyone has had the opportunity to go abroad and he could be shit scared of getting on a plane!

I don't think it's about the passports. I think he is worried that if he pays for the passports, he's gonna have to do something he'snever done before and he's worried.

It seems to me that he could pay for passports for his children, you go with the children, and you make the holiday a week instead of two so that the kids and you aren't apart from DP for too long?

can't you get yr dad to have a word, a man to man chat, to allay his fears? christ, how often does someone spring air tickets? He's being very silly about this, and it'd be such a shame he it ruins everyone's christmas.

thank you maureen i think you really get what im trying to say,

i will try to get my step mum to talk to him first as they connect better than my DP and dad, then i will try my dad.

im just fed up with outsiders putting him off. he gets "you should go to spain first" ALOT! i understand its daunting for him for his first time abroad and we did plan to go to spain a souple of years ago but he then broke his leg and has been out of work since (through no fault of his own ill add)
so we didnt get round to going.

i will try to sort it out. if i can be xmas i could delay it until feb as its mine and ds birthdays in half term and then take ds out of school for a week.

we will see what occurs.

I think if he's never been abroad before then a long haul flight to Dubai is a pretty big ask! Are you sure he's not scared of flying?