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Am I being unreasonable to think that £250 is too expensive for an antenatal class?

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galaxymummy · 31/08/2009 10:40

Hi what do you think the right price for an antenatal class is?
What are the advantages of doing active birth v spa v NCT?

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Picante · 02/09/2009 12:50

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2rebecca · 02/09/2009 15:38

If you think it's too expensive don't go. The NHS ones are free. I went to both but don't remember nct being that expensive. NHS was younger more local mums, NCT posher, older more geographically distant mums. Our local midwives were very good so anyone not doing NCT wouldn't have been disadvantaged. It very much depends on the mums going to the classes, where you live, how many friends you have, how much money you have as to whether it's worth it or not.

BunnyLebowski · 02/09/2009 15:44

@ notanumber too!

I think ante-natal classes are a total waste of time for any sensible person.

I didn't go to any yet shock horror managed to figure out when dd needed a feed or a nappy .

There's nothing they can tell you about the birth that you can't read on the internet and believe me you'll still be shocked and awed when it actually happens!

£250 is extortionate! Book yourself into a spa for the day at half that and spend the rest on shoes!

Stigaloid · 02/09/2009 15:55

£250 seems like a lot of money. We paid £160 for 8 classes, which worked out as £10 per person (DH and I) per class (approx 2 hours), which seemed reasonable. How many classes are you getting?

ninagleams · 02/09/2009 16:01

I didn't go to any antenatal classes either. I was booked into an NHS class but opted for sleep on the day in question instead of dragging my arse across the borough. I don't think it made any difference as naturally everything unexpected happened anyway. Get a tour of the maternity unit instead- looking at the apparatus they provide and asking the internet will answer most of your questions about childbirth. The midwife visits regularly 10 days after the birth so if you need to know something they'll help you out and after that there's the health visitor.

I think paying £175 to make a few friends is a bit much. I used the internet instead, it cost the same amount my broadband costs every month.

BunnyLebowski · 02/09/2009 16:07

Agree Nina - I've made new friends using gumtree since having dd.

I didn't even go to the hospital tour as I knew from pretty much day one of finding out I was pregnant that I'd be having my baby at home.

I don't buy into all these things you "must" do when having a baby. I use my instincts and my intelligence - so far they've done me proud!

ninagleams · 02/09/2009 16:22

It's good to know your way around if you get carted off when you were meant to have a home birth though! A lot less intrusive if you've been in the labour ward before.

Basically I think you're right that you should go with what feels right when you're preparing for childbirth. That's the way to psychologically prepare yourself and I thought antenatal classes would make me feel more neurotic and give me a preconception about how it would go. I needed to see the unit so that I wouldn't be in unfamiliar territory, I would have liked to see the operating room as well but they didn't show us that. Other people really need to feel they've talked to professionals though and I understand that, I just didn't want to.

LP39 · 05/02/2010 12:02

I'm just looking at the forms to fill in for my course in Barnes... £307!! Just seems too much so trying to find alternatives or advice as to attend it or not.

ImSoNotTelling · 05/02/2010 12:08

galaxymummy I did both NCT and NHS antenatal classes.

The NHS ones were very good
The NCT ones we didn't get on with at all

Neither told me anything I didn't already know TBH.

Didn't make any friends really at either. What I did do was join the local NHS postnatal classes. They were brilliant. Made loads of friends, it's much easier when you have actual real babies to bond over and of course you have loads to talk about - all the birth experiences, sleepless nights, nappy explosions etc etc. The course taught all sorts of useful stuff it was great. And it's good to have something to "get out of the house" for when they're v small.

So my recommendation would be to do a cheap/free antenatal and then sign up for postnatal classes. Ask HV about them afer the birth.

MrsC2010 · 05/02/2010 12:20

I'm doing both (first timer so a bit over excited!). The full price of ours was about £160ish inc membership, but as we earn just under £25k between us as trainee teachers we get a teeny discount. (The discount is proportional depending on how much under £25k you are, our discount is neglegible but every little helps!) I'm not joining either yet, but I might do when the baby as born. I think I'll get more perks out of membership then!

To answer your question though, I do think £250 would stretch us a little too far, especially when the NHS ones are free.

Pannake · 05/02/2010 12:24

I agree with ImSoNotTelling.
Free NHS classes will tell you everything you need to know. I found the NCT classes expensive and difficult to get to. I did it mostly in order to meet people, but since we didn't really get on that well with anyone in our group it was all rather dissapointing. The NCT early days sessions were very good though (and cheap). Lots of useful information.

ImSoNotTelling · 05/02/2010 12:24

I was told that I had to join the NCT to do the classes, something which I now know was not true, and i am not happy about it TBH.

TrickyTeenagersMum · 05/02/2010 12:27

Notanumber, that is spot on. Laughed out loud, a lot.
£250 is f*ing ridiculous to be told a lot of stuff you can pick up from your midwife for free. NCT is, to me, a cracking little business franchise, coining it on the back of people's insecurity and ignorance. But it IS nice to have some pals to go through the first baby stuff with. NCT seems to be a very bonding experience, my sister swears by it just for the social side.
I didn't bother but did find mother and baby groups and breastfeeding groups, baby yoga, baby music, all that stuff after the birth hugely helpful, just as a way of making new mum friends.
Depends how tight money is, I'd say. But what more there is to say other than "It will hurt but will also be the best day of your life, ever," I don't know. That'll be £7.61, please.

Fennel · 05/02/2010 12:59

My nct classes taught me that childbirth didn't hurt if done with the proper attitude.

Nor does breastfeeding if done properly.

[hmmm] on both counts.

I made some good friends at the NCT classes but I made just as good friends at the free or cheap nhs classes.

Dirtgirl · 05/02/2010 13:21

It was the best £250 I've ever spent. Not for the lessons, but for the friends. I'm close friends with all but 2 of the couples at the anti natal class I signed up to. The kids play together and we babysit for each other. It was a lifeline.

The lessons I could take or leave tbh.

Downdog · 05/02/2010 13:39

Personally, I wouldn't pay that much at all - though when preggers I did look into it.

The NHS class was fine for me, plus I think most new mothers do a fair bit of reading up etc anyway - the most useful tool for me was a Hypno Birthing CD I listened to & relaxed to daily from about 32 weeks.

NHS breast feeding workshop (Queen Charlottes London) was amazing, & very inspirational.

I also met enough new Mum's etc through health clinics etc

FrameyMcFrame · 05/02/2010 13:49

I hated the NCT classes, only went to two.

went to the NHS ones and then the postnatal group run by my doctors and met nice people through those

The NCT I was in was really snobby and the atmosphere was awful, really cringe to think about it.

TrickyTeenagersMum · 05/02/2010 13:50

Fennel - Childbirth doesn't hurt! You were sold a fast one, weren't you?!
The whole "if it hurts it's your failing" thing and/or "if it hurts it's somehow Western medicine's fault" makes me so annoyed.
Obviously it will hurt. Just compare the size of the baby's head to the size of the exit route. OW.

Meant to say, I did pregnancy yoga classes through both my pregnancies which were really worthwhile. V relaxing, uplifting and actually useful, as they helped me to feel better mentally and physically. And I could make friends there too and gossip about gas n air vs epidurals etc. About £8 a week. Bargain.

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Sassybeast · 05/02/2010 13:53

NCT over priced and elitist with no grip on the reality of labour and BF - think perfect pink fluff NHS - free, adequate and my best mates are the people I met at the NHS classes. Buy the shoes

Disenchanted3 · 05/02/2010 13:59

Why bother?

Just go to the free ones or read a book from the library.

Why all this'you will make friends for life' and NCT? Do people who go 'NHS' not have social skills? Surely you could make friends there?

Don't bother with NCT it will be all... 'Raspberry leaf tea, guffaw, guffaw'

taffetacat · 05/02/2010 14:07

I avoided NCT as it all felt a bit too "clubby" for me. Went to the one at my local surgery, met three amazing women who I am still in touch with, despite having moved to the country.

Don't remember much about the classes but it was great to grumble and stress along together the first 6 months with other first timers with kids born within a few weeks of each other.

zipzap · 05/02/2010 14:12

It's worth finding out what exactly your NHS antenatal classes will be like - we were offered drop in sessions at a large london hospital that were run on a rolling basis so no guarantees of seeing the same participants again. Also, there were upwards of 30 couples there so not an ideal place to make friends.

For nct might be worth looking into who will be running the course and what sort of area the participants are from. again - we did the central london ones and they attracted people from across london so not so good for making long term friends.

however, the person running them was fantastic, she did tell us that it would hurt like fuck and then some but gave a whole raft of different things that might help to deal with the pain. Including drugs, yoga, breathing, positions, even stuff that she said hadn't worked for her but had worked for others so still included.

one of the participants had pre eclamsia before the last session and was in hospital being monitored and then going to be induced, she got her husband to see her and went through a whole load of things with him relating to the induction and ways to help his wife and what could be expected, what to ask and when, which they both found really useful and supportive at what had become a very scary time for them.

The other thing to do is to see if there are any independent midwives near to you and see if they run sessions, or if you have several friends who are also pregnant, see if you could negotiate for them to run a course for you based on what you need to know, might work out much cheaper, espeically if you were able to host it in one of your houses rather than need to have a room rental element in the price IYSWIM.

zipzap · 05/02/2010 14:14

meant to say - you don't say what it is you want from the classes - info, support, social, friends, etc - worth deciding that and looking at the classes offered to you locally for the factors that are most important to you...