To think my friend could have invited us for lunch?

[lisbey]

Tomorrow morning we're all doing a charity walk. A friend and her family are going too. She phoned this afternoon to ask if we had plans for afterwards.

I said no and she suggested that we go to her house so we can see the new decking (I had previously asked to do this as we're considering similar) then she added "after lunch"

So we'll all be together in the morning, then go to our separate homes for lunch then meet up at hers for the afternoon. I'm not suggesting she should cook, but a few sandwiches or a bbq? Just though it would make a day of it. They've been to ours for lunch many times and we've never been fed there, although to be fair they do have a small house and garden, which does seem overly crowded once 4 adults, 4 boys and the dog are in.

Anyway, I suggested we take a picnic to have in the park after the walk and then go straight to hers, which is what we're going to do, so will be a lovely day. I just though it was a bit odd? Do you?

[mumblechum]

Having people for lunch to me means:
Spend all day Sat shopping, planning, cleaning house
All morning Sunday cooking
All afternoon Sunday clearing up.

It's a major palava, prob. because it doesn't mean sandwiches to me it means 3 courses & wine, £100 minimum.

[crokky]

I think YABU. I find inviting people for a lunch involves a lot of stressing, like others have said, planning, shopping, preparing etc etc. I can deal with making a few sandwiches for my own family to have a picnic, but more people and feeling like having to make the food better is stress I can do without tbh. I am not a good cook/food preparer.

[scotagm]

I like having people over but rarely do. House is mostly lovely but very small. Kitchen is crap and needs a total make-over. I am slightly embarrased by my small house which is also an awkward shape , when people come over.

When people do come over, with toys out, the house is very difficult to move around.

Lots of people either find having people over difficult or impractical.