Coffee shop toilet politics

[Vinomum]

I don't know if I was right to be annoyed about an incident that happened to me this morning so I'd like others' perspectives. I was in Costa Coffee on a rare morning shopping without my dcs (bliss!). I went to use the toilet and it was engaged so headed for the other toilet next to it which had 4 signs on the door, male, female, disabled and baby changing - ie one room for all of the above to use. As I was opening the door to go in a woman came up behind me with her young baby and said 'excuse me can I use this toilet to change my baby?' I said of course, and let her go first (mainly as I have a 3 month old ds and know how difficult it can be going out with a small baby). Thinking about it afterwards though, the way she asked me made it obvious that she assumed she had more right to use the room than I did because she had a baby and I didn't. I got really annoyed with myself for giving in to her so easily and letting her go, especially when I was desperate for the loo myself, it was a busy Saturday morning and the toilet was clearly intended for everyone to use, not just those with babies or wheelchair users. Am I right to be annoyed or was I right to let her go ahead of me? Really curious to see what other people think of this!

[diddl]

What signs di the "engaged" toilet have?
If I say a sign with baby change and disabled signs, I probably wouldn´t use it unless I was either of those (IYSWIM)

[allaboutme]

Maybe she saw you outside the loo door and assumed you'd just come out?
Maybe she thought you worked there?? Were you wearing maroon (costa colours I think!)?

[Vinomum]

The engaged toilet just had a male and female sign on it, so I think the intention was that there were two toilets for everybody to use, one of which also had disabled/baby changing facilities, but it wasn't specifically just for disabled/baby changers IYKWIM.

[Vinomum]

And no I wasn't wearing maroon!!

[MrsMattie]

You acted politely, putting the need of a mum and baby before your own. Of course you did the right thing. I don't understand why you're questioning it.

[diddl]

Yes, I get you, Vinomum, although my thinking would be that a disabled person or person wanting to change a baby had "preference" over me as that was the only toilet they could use, whereas I could wait for the other.

I wouldn´t use a toilet designated disabled or baby changing.

[diddl]

should have added if there was another I could wait for.

[TheChilliMooseisOmnipotent]

Maybe she didn't mean to go first, but was just asking if she was able to change to change the baby there, ie were their facilities to do so?