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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want to deck the manager of a West End cinema?

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lottiejenkins · 26/08/2009 18:55

Last night i took my son to the cinema in the West End while we were in London for the night.... So far so good. He is very over excitable (ADHD) and profoundly deaf so isnt aware of how much noise he makes........ He was quite noisy while we were queueing up, when we went to go down to the screening the manager of the cinema called me to one side and said "Madam your son wont make too much noise in there and disturb the other patrons will he?" I was quite upset understandably and said "Trust me he wont be!" I have been to the cinema with him before and there have been people in there who have made more noise than he does! AIBU to be upset??

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lottiejenkins · 26/08/2009 20:03

vjg.... bruexeur seems to think i was serious!! [

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lottiejenkins · 26/08/2009 20:05

Oh and for what its worth bruxeur, anyone who knows me on here will tell you im not a violent person!!

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NotPlayingAnyMore · 26/08/2009 20:07

I was going to say YABU... until I realised that I've been in the same queue as noisy adults who are never challenged there or even when they continue to ruin the film for others in the cinema itself.

So YANBU

Goblinchild · 26/08/2009 20:11

So what happened?
Did your son enjoy the film without making enough noise for the manager to have to say more?
If so, then the manager has learned something he didn't know before.
People often ask me if my son will cope with something before the event, because they don't know and are worried about the outcome. I don't feel that's rude.

Morloth · 26/08/2009 20:11

I regularly punch people in the face in my imagination, it helps me to NOT actually do it.

I think YABU. As long as he was polite it really isn't a big deal.

chegirl · 26/08/2009 20:12

junglist seen

and exactly what notplaying said.

How many people stand really quietly in a cinema queue? Should lottie's DS have to be extra specially behaved just so he doesnt worry the staff?

Pah

cruelladepoppins · 26/08/2009 20:13

Sorry, I think YABU. The manager had some evidence that your son was noisy, and was thinking about his other patrons. He would not be willing to let their enjoyment be spoilt and I think that's fair enough. He was just checking with you.

chegirl · 26/08/2009 20:30

No he had evidence that OP's DS could be noisy whilst waiting to get into the theatre.

He had no evidence that the noise would continue once inside.

He assumed it would.

hatesponge · 26/08/2009 20:35

YANBU - can see why you would be cross. It seems a bit pre-emptive on the manager's part.

Aren't most children quite lively on the way into the cinema? Or just mine?

frasersmummy · 26/08/2009 21:29

kids are excitable and loud.. It comes with the terrritory. I think just about any parent put in this position (sn or not)would feel like they looked like they couldnt control their child!

Parents shouldn't be made to feel bad for noise in the queue ..

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lottiejenkins · 26/08/2009 21:43

He thoroughly enjoyed the film......... we saw the latest Eddie Murphy film. There were only about a dozen of us in there!! Thanks for your responses!

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chegirl · 26/08/2009 21:57

Frankly I think the management shouldve been greatful that anyone would want to see an Eddie Murphy film!

shabbapinkfrog · 27/08/2009 01:15

Lottie my friend - tell them to fark off

Bathsheba · 27/08/2009 08:07

He was polite, he wasn't to know, and he was ensuring that all his customers would be happy.

People aren't immediately going to know how calm or quiet your son is normally and I think he handled a very difficult question very well.

mayorquimby · 27/08/2009 11:48

"Madam your son wont make too much noise in there and disturb the other patrons will he?"

possibly the most reasonable and polite thing a manager could say to a parent who's child had been making a lot of noise while waiting in line for tickets. his job is to ensure the enjoyment of the film for all patrons of his cinema. he saw a potential disturbance of other patrons experience. and extremely politely sought reassurance from the childs mother. which was forthcoming and he accepted.
WTF did he do wrong?
yabu in the extreme.

mayorquimby · 27/08/2009 11:50

"Instead of panicking straight away maybe he could have waited and kept an eye once they were inside? My 6 year old is a complete madman but will zip up when the lights go down
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in which case we would have had the exact same thread except the managers transgression this time would have been keeping too close an eye on the op's child and watching him like the gestapo for the slightest noise because he assumed he'd make noise.

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