to be devastatd that my husband of 18 years been on internet dating sites ?

[traceyinrosso]

Help - I have discovered that my husband of 18 years has been on internet dating sites recently. When challenged he assures me he was only looking out of curiosity but I know he went on a few days ago to the same site so surely he didn't need to look again if he was just curious ??? We have also had arguments that he he has looked at readers wives type sites and once discovered pictures of other woman on the computer - I wouldn't mind so much if they were glamorous but they looked at least as old as me and just slappers (sorry feel ranting coming on ). Every time he assures me that he loves me and wouldn't still be with me if he didn't but don't know how much more I can take. Plus if I can stumble across stuff on the computer as a techno phobe what will our 3 kids find when being nosey ? Feel like my marriage falling apart - he says because not enough bedroom action ie its my fault but what with working part time, 3 kids and no practical help in the house I am permanently exhausted and don't want to do it with him when I think he is just comparing me to his internet woman. Help !!! Need advice - anyone else gone through the same ?

It's escalating because it's moved on from just looking at porn, to dating sites, then onto the adult extra marital bit on the side sites. Now op is getting requests for pics and she isn't sure if they are for his use or to go on comp for a wider audience to view!!! Where does this kind of thing lead to then??

Where does it next escalate to?

Op, think you may need to address your workload v a sex life. If that gets up and running again do you think his online antics will stop?

See, I assumed he was asking for pics of OP for his own enjoyment and because she had made her feelings clear on his looking at other women, perhaps he thought she'd be happier if he was using her pic as a stimulus, instead of looking online.

Looking at dating sites might have been due to curiousity but is he focussing on a specific woman, i.e. thinking about cheating on you? You really should try asking him to come to counselling or giving up the internet dating sites.