Tombliboobs that's shocking. What an idiot he is, you must be absolutely livid and justifiably concerned about your children's welfare.
Have you considered going to a counsellor? We did that when DH carried on failing to replace the lid on the toothpaste tube. It totally repaired the rift in our relationships, we'd just reached the stage of being utterly bitter towards each other because of it. now our happy home is stronger than ever!
mumsnorks Was that the counsellor who advised you to get toothpaste in standing up tubes, by any chance?? They earned their £50 per hour and no mistake
MyMILisNannyOgg The 'dangling upside down' thing is something my MIL used to always push on me, she said it helped to get the blood out of their brain and back into their little legs for the day. Crazy of course! I made extra sure i picked them up bolt-upright every time she was there.
bumsexshouldbefreeontheNHS Congrats on your pregnancy. And I notice you HV told you stop BF! (obviously wrong) Can you make a formal complaint? I did when my HV suggested something trivial i was doing was not 100% normal. Totally justified.
MotherinLore I'd just like to say we didn't have parenting forums in our day, if we wanted advice we'd listen to our elders and betters. I dangled all eleven of my boys upside down every morning and it never did them any harm, in fact, i think it made them the strong upright men they are today.
unhingedminge @bumsex - >yech at your name< why shouldn't she stop BF? if she wants to that is? We don't all have to wait until our children have to stop because they are getting married and leaving home before weaning them.
@motherinlore
And just because putting them head down in the morning doesn't kill them, that doesn't make it ok, I would be worried more that I had chosen to have kids sharing the same DNA with this guy.
Dump him OP, you'll never look back.
politicallycorrectandlovingit Are you being a eugenicist, unhinged? Do you think because people lack common sense they produce defective children? My husband hasn't the merest puff of common sense and we have a lovely family of kids without the slightest touch of practicality between them. I love them so much I just can't bear to hear them criticised in any way. The standing on upturned garden rakes, discarded banana skins and finding the bath has overflowed gets to me occasionally, but it's still soo rewarding.
mumsnorks I think you're being a bit oversensitive politicallycorrect, i think unhinged was more worried that her DH was a danger to her kids due to the fact the ony brain cell he possesses is crying because it is all alone and the rest of him just does what his mother tells it.
and unhinged i think we might need to know a teeny bit more before we tell her to divorce the father of her children?
rubs desperates dh's sole braincell comfortingly on the back, hands it a handkerchief<
desperateofDorking
Oh, thank you for your responses ladies, you've been so helpful. I don't think counselling is for us, as I'd be terrified they'd take DD away from us [hysterical and paranoid emoticon] for being horrid parents.
But what should i do? He has gone off in a huff, and spoke to me whilst he was in the supermarket an hour ago but when i called back five minutes later to ask him to get baked beans (aren't pregnancy cravings weird?), he didn't pick up.
I feel so bad and am really wondering if i should have got so angry with him. I mean, its seems a silly thing to do, but I still love him. If i'd talked to him more maybe this wouldn't have happened, he wouldn't have felt obliged to go to his Mum for advice.
waitingforfanjo do you think its possible he might have gone out of reception, tends to be dodgy in supermarkets? At ours you have to stand on a trolley on one leg waving your phone around before you can get so much as one bar of reception.
You were right to be angry, he was being daft, but no-ones perfect - I think we've all done some daft things especially with our first children. Maybe just ask him never to do that again? And don't let the kids sleep over at MIL's until they're older.
cheer up lovey, have some cake healthy food and watch jeremy kyle a good film.