To not want to be married into a stuck up austrian family

[alicesadventuresinwonderland]

wanders off

with working class accent

the lies have hurt

had enough lies in my first marriage

but the snotty Im better than you attitude hurts...mil always goes on about what a good family they are

feck I feel so stupid

How the hell do I not say anything

and today over a silly disagreement sil dragged ds back over to me screaming at him

christ sake he is five

think I really need to do some thinking ..

Yes, the problem isn't so much the family, but that your DH told you some whopping lies and now you're wondering what else he is lying about. Not a great basis for a marraige. (Though I would also be worried about having a criminal FIL and not very nice MIL).

presumably they are ashamed of it - and this is their way of dealing with it.

You need to talk to DH - ask why he didn't tell you - that is assuming you found out in an innocent way - and not by some underhand way that you are ashamed of.

Im really curious
as to why dh lied to me

but he is ever so touchy about it and feels his dad was cleared but I can not find that bit out at all

makes me wonder

money truly is not good

mil said to me once..

you do not need to respect money

you just Need to have it ....

a very self important attitude