To want to tell my friend her boy is annoying??

[Fluffypoms]

My friend has a 4yo ds,who i think rules her and causes a drama about everything.

last time we had playdate her ds took my dd,s socks off so dd was saying NO i dont want them off, anyway turned into a squabble
so my friend told my dd not to be silly and that it wasnt a problem?
he then threw the socks out the window!
so i laughinly said opps thats a problem.

she didnt even tell him he shouldnt of done that,just let him carry on playing.

I am forever telling my own dc/s no leave it,give it back ect just to please her DS.

he is often very rude and everything he says goes.
have got to the point where i dont want my dcs playing with him,if they join in on what her ds does,she ignores he started it and says oh thats naughty of your dc?

But really like my friend just not her ds at times.
WWYD?

ok i have NEVER heard of peanut butter flavour crisps , who makes them ?

they are like wotsits, corn puffs.
used to get them abroard as kid in cyprus.
but found them in the food of the world bit in the supermarket.

Wondering if DH wants a trip to supermarket

not unreasonable to WANT to tell her.

Incredibly unreasonable if you act on that feeling.

bite your tongue, see her without the kids. Your friend will take it personally if you say something and that could damage your friendship

I had to do this with a friend of mine. Her parenting style differs from mine a great deal, my friends behaviour impacted greatly on her dd and when my friend stood back and smirked when her dd snatched a toy from my dd and pushed her I realized that something had to give..

I only see her on her own now and its so less stressful. My friend is barmy anyway, I just don't have to put up with her spoilt neurotic and very troubled 7 yr old daughter

Why bother seeing the mum either?

Why didn´t you just tell her son toleave your daughter alone,or move your daughter away from him?
If he´s annoying your daughter, you´re within your rights to step in!

yeah diddl
i didnt say in post yeah we went home.

Flufypoms.... where did you get the peanunt puffs from ? My Co-Op had them last Christmas and I got addicted quite liked them

Fluffy - if you really like your friend and want to keep her as a friend, don't criticise her parenting skills or her child.

If you can't see her without child, you will have to plan how you're going to deal with the problems that will occur.
Just say "hey, that's not nice" or think of other interventions like "stop doing that or i'll take it away" or whatever you usually say to your dd. Put your foot down.
If you don't like him doing something to dd you have to tell him because she won't, and if you speak to her about it she'll be offended (even though you are right and she is wrong). And make playdates shorter so more managable, or plan an activity so he is occupied and less likely to fight/squabble.

But if dd doesn't like him maybe it would be better to see her without him if he upsets your dd. Or maybe it's time to find some new friends? Hope you find a solution hun, I've lost friends over something similar and I wish I'd bit my lip. We're all different and we all parent differently.

Oh, and if he's a handful at school it is possible he has a problem. I have 2 strangely behaved boys, 1 with ADHD, the other ASD. Maybe it's not the fault of the child or the mother if he's a bit 'difficult'? Good luck.

oldraver got them in morrisons if my memory serves me right
Love em too!!

for you, if you don't say something it will carry on i know how hard it is, can't say to much
but my friends dd kept hurting my ds constantly even time we saw each other and a few times she blamed my ds, lucky she moved away and i thank my lucky stars.

i feel for you i really do