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cream cake child neglect

51 replies

victoriascrumptious · 15/08/2009 19:05

DD is 12months and ill with a cold and teething. I have struggled to feed her the last 4 days due to her being off her food. Today she has eaten
2 bananas
2 bottles of milk
some of those organix goodies tomato crisp things.
She has refused everything else.

Earlier I went to give her a quarter of my cream cake which has cream and jam on it. SIL piped up with "DON'T give the child cream cake!" dh "will be really annoyed".

Well yes I know cream cakes arnt great for kids but i'm desperately trying to get some fat and calories into her.

I'm a bit miffed to say the least

AIBU to be miffed?

OP posts:
differentID · 15/08/2009 19:50

I prefer cream slices myself with the icing on top. yummy.

GirlsAreLoud · 15/08/2009 20:01

I love it when you bite into a cream slice, and the cream slides out and you have to lick the side of it to stop the cream escaping.

Mmmm, cake porn..

AramintaCane · 15/08/2009 20:06

Anyone for and eclair or a banoffie cheesecake ? Or shall i have both ?

BaconAndEggs · 15/08/2009 20:20

yanbu.

pamelat · 15/08/2009 20:29

I would be angry at SIL. What on earth has it got to do wit her?!!!

If mine said that I would promptly have gone ahead and forced fed the cake to DD!

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 20:31

I love those cream slices with the icing on top

even better if it's a custard slice with icing on the top though

Morloth · 15/08/2009 20:32

YABU - eating cream cake is not good for anyone. Never seen the point of any cake that doesn't involve chocolate in some way myself .

I have an excellent photo of DS at his first birthday shoving down great big handfuls of mudcake (hehe we even let him paw at the whole cake to do it - now that is crap parenting).

Your SIL is a loon.

littleducks · 15/08/2009 20:33

If she doesnt have d and v i dont see any harm in giving a bit poorly and miserable child a treat

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 20:35

I wonder if it was one of those ones like at Greggs that is like sponge/donut with cream and squirty type jam

StayFrostyBoobNazisCureCancer · 15/08/2009 20:35

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serendippity · 15/08/2009 20:36

you are so NBU. When dd was 12 months she wouldn't eat anything. She went through a whole week once surving on a quarter of cheese on tast a day. We went through having to be reffered to dietician and peaditrican because she gained no weight for 6 weeks, her head was literaly bigger than her body- it was terrifying. Eventualy we we made her ANYTHING that would put calories in her and fat on her. Cream cakes, chicken nuggets, chips anything. It was a slooow process, as she didn't eat much of those thing either, but it did work eventualy and as soon as she was a helthy weight I started making everything she ate from scratch, was scarily strict about salt (see weaning thread about satueeing ds's stuff in salted butter!), E numbers, colours ect. She has an amazingly varied diet, will eat any vegeateble/fruit put in front of her and is absoulutly fine.
Needs must, do what you feel is right for your dd
Your SIL is increaibly rude and it sounds like she has no idea what it feels like to be so worried for your child.
Would your dh be annoyed btw?
Good luck, let her enjoy treats for now until she is back on track

oneopinionatedmother · 15/08/2009 20:37

does anyone else like Jap cakes? I love them so much we hadthem as wedding cakes.

umm crispy meringue and creamy nutty filling....

[slavers]

i thought this thread was going to about refusing a child cake when i saw the tile..

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 20:39

I didn't know they were called that opinionated but they are dd and dh's favourite cake!

I don't like sweet things as a rule (am a crisp and cheese person really) but give me a Pavlova or a custard slice any day

Original poster
victoriascrumptious · 15/08/2009 23:41

I will describe the cake. It was from the local bakery. It was soft and fluffy and had jam and oodles of real cream i.e not spray cream on it.

I have come to the conclusion that SIL wanted to eat it herself but was too repressed about her body image to admit it

thanks all

OP posts:
thedailyfemale · 15/08/2009 23:43

maybe the sil wanted the cake

GrimmaTheNome · 15/08/2009 23:59

We all want the cake!

Bigpants1 · 16/08/2009 00:08

Hi.Let your SIL be indignant, and you and dd enjoy the cake. I bought all my dc cakes today, and now, at midnight, I am going to eat mine!
My youngest is a poor eater,and doesnt have a great diet, but she is healthy and has lots of energy,so thats good enough for me. When she is unwell, she probably survives on bottles,but then,sometimes when we are unwell, we go off our food. As long as she is taking liquids, shell be fine.
From the posts on this thread, we need to bring back cake eating out of the closet-start making your banners now!

KTNoo · 16/08/2009 00:11

Nothing wrong with giving her cream cake sometimes. None of your SIL's business.

But, I wouldn't worry too much about getting food into your dd if she is ill and doesn't have an appetite. More important she drinks, and she'll eat when she feels like it again. Mine go for days eating nothing but a few crackers and maybe a yogurt if they're ill, then eat like horses once they're feeling better. I don't feel like eating when I'm ill, so I can understand why your dd doesn't want to if she's bunged up with a cold and has sore gums. It must be horrible to have food constantly shoved in your face when you don't feel like it.

Mumcentreplus · 16/08/2009 00:15

What tha Crocodile Hat?...

ignore her ..baby needed to eat she can get lost imo..

I'm rather like fresh cream doughnuts ..totally delish

shabbapinkfrog · 16/08/2009 00:54

Tell her to sod off!!!

One of my twin boys was born with really serious heart problems. He struggled to take my expressed breast milk in a bottle - ended up using a syringe to feed him bit by bit.

When he was about 4 months old I fed him anything he would eat.....his favourite food was (cover your SIL's ears) milky bars or custard. I couldnt care less....it was a case of whatever he would eat I would feed him.

Despise it when 'well meaning' relatives chuck their twopennys worth in the debate.

You have done nothing wrong - you are the MUM - you KNOW BEST!!

GypsyMoth · 16/08/2009 01:12

I can see this thread making the daily mail next week...

Choux buns, now they are really yummy!

shabbapinkfrog · 16/08/2009 01:12

LOL Tiff xx

katiestar · 16/08/2009 10:58

YANBU at all
I thought under 2s were supposed to have a high fat diet anyway ?
However I don't think 2 bottles of milk and 2 bananas and a bag of crisps is at all bad for a 12month old baby who is feeling under the weather.My healthy active nearly 4 yr old often doesn't eat much more than that in a day.

WidowWadman · 16/08/2009 11:03

Shouldn't you know better than your SIL what or what not your partner would be annoyed about? I don't quite get the warning, how would she know?

Also I think a little bit of cream cake surely won't hurt, especially not in these circumstances. But then I'm probably a criminal to have let my 8 month old child have a lick of my icecream yesterday...

sweetnitanitro · 16/08/2009 11:13

Your SiL sounds like mine so I am full of sympathy. Yes, cream cakes are 'bad' but as everyone else has said it's not like your DD is eating them all the time.

My DD has just had one of her top teeth come through and she wouldn't eat anything but fromage frais for a week (she was on the boob permanently, it was like having a newborn again).

I even asked my HV about it and she said the important thing is that she was getting some calories and that if it was only temporary it didn't matter. So tell your SiL to stick that in her pipe and smoke it how bloody rude of her to tell you off like that!

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