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Original poster

To object to DP watching the football the day after we get married?

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LoveMyGirls · 15/08/2009 13:10

We're getting married on the saturday, it's a fairly big do with family coming from all over, one friend is even coming from norway...

Anyway the next day the plans we roughly to have a bit of a lie in (as we're guessing we won't get to sleep until 3am ish) then get up, have a bit of a tidy up, then either have family come here or us go to them so we can see our dd's for a few hours, open presents/ cards, then finish packing for the honeymoon we go on our honeymoon the early hours of the monday so we'll need an early night too.

DP thinks he'll have enough time to watch the football at 12pm.

I think we have enough to do and by 12pm we'll be with family and I think it's rude to have football on when you're with visitors and also I think he should want to spend what little time we have with dd's that day.

I'm saying he can sky plus it and watch it later once everything is done.

AIBU?

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deaddei · 15/08/2009 19:55

Mine watched golf on our wedding night.

deaddei · 15/08/2009 19:56

Oh, and played the morning of the wedding (we got married at 1pm...).

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LoveMyGirls · 15/08/2009 20:19

Hummmmmmmmmm looks like it's a split opinion......

Football does annoy the hell out of me, he usually goes out to watch it, the sound irritates me and I do think it's pointless unless you are playing.

Maybe I'll let him have it on but no sound I think that's a compromise and that's what good marriages are all about aren't they?

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BaconAndEggs · 15/08/2009 20:22

I don't think you are bu, but he should be able to check the scores occasionally ;)

bigchris · 15/08/2009 20:25

its not quite the same as the world cup final though, i'd rather watch that if we were in it than get married

BitOfFun · 15/08/2009 20:33

"Mine watched golf on our wedding night...Oh, and played the morning of the wedding (we got married at 1pm...)."

No hole in one for him then?

Seriously, I presume you are now divorced?

NightShoe · 15/08/2009 21:46

YABU, DH kept asking me to make sure DD was born before the England match (jokingly!)and sure enough she was born at 3.14 pm and I have a photo of him holding her watching the match at 6pm. It is one of my best photos.

We also sought out football matches on our honeymoon. Now I come to think of it, there was a match on during our wedding and there was a runnig commentary at our wedding meal about who was winning! It doesn't bother me because the bottom line is that it isn't all about ME, is it?

deaddei · 15/08/2009 21:58

Bitofun- no, after 14 years we are still together!!!
He still plays a lot of golf...

BitOfFun · 15/08/2009 22:01
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lucky1979 · 16/08/2009 02:31

I ended up getting dragged to a Barcelona game on our honeymoon cause DH thought he'd never get the chance again to go to Nou Camp. And he's not even a Barcelona supporter!

He spent a lot of time trailing round the Barcelona shops with me though (and bought me a handbag) so it all evened out.

I wouldn't worry too much about it - it's important to him. I don't understand WHY football is so important to my DH but it is, and it has been since he was a kid so I just let him get on with it, and would hope he would do the same for me if I wanted to do something he didn't get.

mathanxiety · 16/08/2009 07:27

I've been to actual wedding receptions where the game was all anyone cared about.

Claire236 · 16/08/2009 07:34

Lost my dh at our weeding reception as he discovered they were showing the football in the bar next door to the room we were having our reception in. Had a great girly time for that bit of the reception then made the men pay for all the drinks when they finally reappeared. A good time had by all. Mind you I am a football fan myself so didn't have a problem with it & would like to think if I had objected he would have missed the football just that once.

nekonix · 16/08/2009 07:39

i think he should watch it. my soon to be husband is going to a football match the day after our wedding and also watching football on our honeymoon. its only a couple of hours and he really enloys it.

Eve4Walle · 16/08/2009 08:14

It was the Cup Final the day we got married - Arsenal v Chelsea. All my DH's family support Arsenal. They were all in the car park at the reception wathing the best bits on the TV in our posh hired wedding car. I was a bit as some of them refused to come in for the speeches.

YANBU. I hate football. Rugby is miles more interesting to watch!

Callisto · 16/08/2009 09:04

YANBU. I wouldn't marry a man that thought football was the be all and end all.

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LoveMyGirls · 16/08/2009 09:14

We've agreed he can have it on quietly in the background.

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ThePinkOne · 16/08/2009 09:33

Could be worse. I had to drop my DH off for a 6 month deployment with the Navy the day after we got married

CristinaTheAstonishing · 16/08/2009 09:34

Friend's DH played real tennis the evening of his DD being born.

My family & friends watched some rubbish world's greatest tractor puller or the like while I was getting dressed into my wedding dress. Also some football later on.

sunfleurs · 16/08/2009 09:45

This would never bother me. My sister actually had a television at her wedding reception because it was the world cup quarter final and she knew people wanted to watch it.

thesecondcoming · 16/08/2009 09:49

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Blondeshavemorefun · 16/08/2009 09:50

the man who went to the pub during his wedding day

if that was me, then divirce could be on the cards - tho i am very lucky and dh hates footie

your wedding day should be just for you, but he wants to watch it the day after - which tbh is just a normal day

well done for compromising

CyradisTheSeer · 16/08/2009 09:53

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poshsinglemum · 16/08/2009 12:05

YANBU- I would be pissed off. It's the day after your wedding. He has the rest of his life to watch the bloody football!

poshsinglemum · 16/08/2009 12:08

I am at the number of people who have football at their weedings! How romantic!
Mabe this is why I'm still single- I should be indulging my boyfriends' football fantasies but I get pissed off if they have more eyes for Stephen Gerrard than myself. And I am a footie fan myself.

poshsinglemum · 16/08/2009 12:10

Because it's 90 minutes that the man could have another day when she isn't so busy. Why is it so important to him that he can't put it off?