To find unnecessary boasting vulgar and cringe worthy?

[poshsinglemum]

It also depends on what people boast about.

I don't have so much of a problem with people boasting about their kids as they are all wonderful and I can take it with a big pinch of salt.

I have a friend, however, who is always boasting about how massive her house is. I know- I have been there lots. I don't need her to tell me. Mabe I am a bit bitter because my house is so tiny. I genuinely didn't feel bad about having a ssmaller house than her but when I spoke to her on the phone the other day she kept going on about her ''massive'' house (again)and how lucky she was.
Not only do I now feel inferior but I have decided that people who boast in order to make me feel small are indeed being vulgar.

So there!

I wonder if she is actually jealous of you. This reminds me of a friend I had at mums and tots who was always making disparaging remarks about my husbands manual job and our small house, but I still believe to this day it was jealously of the fact that I had a dd and ds and she had 2 ds's and desperately wanted a dd and I had a dh who took an active and interested role in the dcs, whereas as hers was never at home. I would cut her out of your life, which I did, or take her comments with a pinch of salt. Also remember that things move on. I now live in a fairly big house myself, nothing is permananent and things change all the time.

I love people boasting. I wish people would boast more. The more blatent, the better. It never makes me feel bad if it's obvious boasting.
Because it gives me a chance to smirk at how far up their own arses they are. .

I wouldn't worry-she probably has problems and a lack of something in her life-let it flow over you.

My mother always says that you should never envy anyone because you don't know what they are really going through. I have an uncle who was forever boasting about his big houses, his big car etc. I recently found out that he is in debt to the tune of £300,000 pounds and is now suffering from severe depression. People who feel the need to boast,are usually insecure and not really confident. The fact that she feels the need to boast to you,indicates to me that she is probably jealous of you. You may think that you may not have much ,but you would be surprised about what people envy.

lljkk - I think I understand a little about how you enjoy people boasting. SIL is one of the biggest boasters in the world (esp about matters concerning her ds and dd) and has no idea that we can all see through it. We tend to avoid her as much as possible but when our paths do cross its very hard not to burst out laughing all the time.

Oh god, I have a friend and she's always at it; boasting that is.

I made the mistake of getting on facebook recently, just to share photos with friends mainly. She's always on there doing something FABULOUS with the most marvelous of people. It gets on my nerves. It's all just self PR really. If you want to you could make going to the dentist sound like a momentous and meaningful occassion.

Does anyone on face book actually like anyone else on facebook.

I thought about going on there but my life is very dull to anyone except me.
I do have a friend that sends me round robins at christmas. I love those .

I tried very hard to boast about my anniversary on here. But only Kerrymum noticed and she told me to fuck off. Which I thought was very fair of her and the least she could do really.

There is a mother on the school run who never stops boasting. It is very very tedious. Half the time she cuts me dead, the other half of the time she sends me her holiday photos . Wierd.

Maybe she is really grumpy about having to maintain a massive and expensive house. And garden. Bear in mind you said she was a love really.

So she might have a mental list of the 1001 jobs that need doing and is feeling depressed and is actually reassuring herself that there is a point to all this.

My boasting friend only has the best of everthing (better than me of course) because she's in debt and her mum gives her and her DH money and bails them out. She's 40 FFS! I would love to point this out to her especially when she looks down on us as we wait save for things but haven't the nerve.

I have a cousin whose sole purpose of visiting anyone (and i know it's not just me) is to boast of as many things as possible in as short a time as possible.

I firmly believe this is because she actually envies other people and is trying to make herself feel better, because she neither seems to realise that she's doing it, nor that she doesn't sound at all interesting but just like a patronising git.

I know Pag; Rome, Champagne and diamonds. I'm looking forward to it being my turn in ten years!!!

So I'm not the only one who thinks that facebook is shiteous then?

I have had so many friend requests from people who don't even like me just so that they look like they have more friends. Then I feel obliged to accept them so that I don't offend.
Like my creepy ex bopyfriend for example!

It seems to be an extention of the high school clique/ school reunion boasting.

I am NEVER, EVER going to a school reunion. I hated most of my peers and the boasting would be horrendous considering most of them are filthy rich!

Why are people so envious? Human anture I guess.

YANBU: I hate this, too.

The worst offender I know is my friend's horrible wife. My friend is wealthy (which is probably why she married him - she doesn't seem to like him much) and they have a big house with a cleaner and gardener. She is my Facebook 'friend' but I try not to have much contact with her in real life.

At Christmas, she posted lots of photos of the enormous pile of presents (still wrapped) that she had bought her 2 DCs, one of whom was only a few weeks old at the time. No photos of the kids playing with their presents, just pics of the gift mountain with the caption 'How lucky are my children?'. She also posted a photo of the Tiffany jewellery box containing the present her DH bought her - no pics of what was actually inside, though. The fact that it was expensive is enough for her.

Her status updates are always vulgar displays of wealth: boasting about which expensive restaurant they are going to, or how much money she just spent shopping online.

She seems to think that marrying a rich man is some kind of wonderful achievement and that we should all admire her for it.

I am not jealous of her: she is hideous, morbidly obese, thick as shit and generally very unpleasant. If money was that important to me, I would have married her DH, not mine!

I shared a flat with a schoolfriend when I got my first job after university. I was still training for a professional qualification so not paid very well. She was on a very well paid graduate scheme with a top bank.

Every month she insisted on showing me her payslip to let me know how much she had earned that month!

I think it was all down to her growing up in a pretty seedy caravan park and always feeling insecure about her modest family background.

The sad thing is, none of her schoolfriends ever gave a toss about that, but her objectionable boasting has meant that none of us keep in touch with her now.

im not so keen on braggers I think all children have good and bad points and i think it shows their parents need constant reasurrance from others which is a shame iuswim

Re the house i live in a two bed flat which we are outgrowing but i love it sadly as someone else said the woman in question doesnt feel the same about her huge house. Sometimes im not sure money and luxury always bring happiness xx

I find FIL to be quite boastful (among other things I also find about him). He is always going aobut how great he is at whatever job he is in. In the 18 years I've known DH FIL ahs had 12 different jobs. each one is the best, he's the best at it etc. Until he gets made redunatnat and then they are all "arses" and he could run the place better than them. For example his current job is as a home carer. and instead of just saying he was enjoying the job he goes on about how the company have told him he's so good they want him as a mananger, they even want him as a mananger in one of the care homes they run and he gets all teh difficult clients becasue he is so good with them and the best carer they have ever had. Then he starts on about SIL and how great she is at her job and how the company wants her to be the assistant mananger int eh home they want him to run and how all the other carers are jealous of FIL and SIL becasue they get all the hours becaue they are so good"
Annoys the life out of me. Also he's very materialistic, and says "oh we jsut had to get the big 84"plasma tv becasue Jim across the road has a 76" tv and I wanted to show him that you could get bigger tvs cos he said his is the biggest and actually it's mine,mine is the biggest tv. and I think FFS shut up

The same friend as I have quoted once got out her cash Christmas bonus in front of me! When I was a student! It wasn't even that much and she isn't rich.
It was her little power trip. I find it quite hilarious actually!

Another mate of mine kept boasting to me about all the baby bargains she'd found when we were both pregnant. Never mind that she has an earning partner and i was struggling along on my tod! I don't think they are being evil- just insecure.

I agree about them being insecure.

It doesn't make you want to spend time with them though, does it?

A friend of mine is a bit like this but rather than obviously brag he asks how much everything cost you, he'd come round and you could see him scanning the room for changes or new purchases.. used to drive me mad. He now knows not to since dp told him 'none of your business' I got so fed up of him having to 'better' whatever we did, always made me feel a bit crappy lol

He earns a little less than my dp (same job) but doesnt have children and has a very small mortgage (ex council house he grew up in) I got to know him quite well recently as he was a case study for me and I now know that he is very insecure despite the impression he tries to give, and for some reason feels that he can only show his worth through his belongings. His things HAVE to cost more than everyone elses cos then obviously theyre better

I used to be a bit jealous that he could afford mega holidays and a brand new car etc etc but when I read through the lines and realised this it really helped me to clarify things. I might not have a mortgage, or £100 tops but I feel Im more stable in other aspects of my life.

God, how I wish I had something to boast about.

Although, we just found out that out house has gone down in value by £75,000 since we bought it three years ago, that's a sort of achievement, isn't it?

I have to agree with lljkk that relly obvious boasting can be hilarious.
I am always amazed that some people really do think having lots of money makes them a better person. Thankfully, I don't think any of our friends give a toss what kind of car, house etc we have.
I find that if it's clear that you don't care/feel inferior, other people won't look down on you.

Dh's family are like that. His sister says that their monthly income is so high that she is "scared" (said in a hushed, dramatic voice). Her dh said the other day that he's been noticing some really big cars like his in the area lately but when he looks at the drivers their faces are of a standard where it looks like they live in tiny little rundown houses in --- (name of actual town) .