to be boiling mad at another mum who keeps blowing me out???

[rubyroo]

i have to vent somewhere safely!!! this has been going on for ages and today was just the last straw our dd's are very close and i keep arranging playdates that she keeps cancelling today with only 30mins notice!! i had cooked tea for the kids and my dd was inconsolable!! i think she was having a playdate somewhere else before and just decided she couldn't be bothered keeping to ours!! but i see her with other mums and she can't do enough for them she's only like this with me!!! our dd's are only 5 but they've known each other through childminder since they were babies and i've run out of excuses to give my dd why her firend doesn't come!! any advice words of wisdom?? my blood is boiling!!!

If you start inviting other children over-and encouraging your daughter to do the same it will allow her to move on gracefully, and only snubbed mummy will be any the wiser.

If you start inviting other children over-and encouraging your daughter to do the same it will allow her to move on gracefully, and only snubbed mummy will be any the wiser.

Can your daughter get invited over to other kids' houses after school etc, where she might see this friend, but without the chance of being let down?

If not, then I would do as others say, and steer clear. Your daughter probably has other friends, so maximise those relationships as much as possible. That girl's mum sounds like a really inconsiderate cow, better off without people like that in your life.

i would personally ask her if i had done something to annoy her etc

but thats just me

then add that everytime she cancels your dc is upset

i would also ask her round AND ask another friend so least if she does cancel then your dc will have a friend to play with