to ask DP not to come into DD's room and put the main light on when she's just gone to sleep?

[Biccy]

This has happened a couple of times now.

For whatever reason, DP comes home late from work; house is quiet because I've been putting dd (3.2) to bed. Our routine is to sing songs then put her bedside light out and she goes to sleep, but she likes me to sit there (it takes just a few minutes for her to nod off).

So, he comes up, comes into the room, and switches the overhead light on. I asked him to turn it off and he leaves the room. I then go and find him and ask 'why do you do that?'. And he says 'because I don't know if you are in there or not'. When I say 'well, putting the main light on when somebody is asleep may wake them up' he says, 'oh, ok, whatever...' in a big hrmph and stomps off.

He is now banging about in the kitchen in a huff with me.

Please tell me who is being unreasonable here.

Am horrified by the transit van incident. That is appalling and irresponsible behaviour.

Don't worry, I told him, very seriously, that if he ever pulled a stunt like that again I would be packing my bags and taking 'my' dd with me... I think he believed me, and he's certainly been less reckless since.