To expect DP to cope with ONE simple task

[dilemma456]

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I ask this as your OP was rather irksome.

I am off with dd this week. Yesterday we made a pressed flower display - planned ahead and with some pointers from Mrs Badger.
Today we went back into the garden and harvested some lavender and made some lavender pockets - for clothes drawers and wardrobes. These we will 'sell' to family/friends at 50p a go and the proceeds go to dd's piggy bank. All needs forthought.

None of this makes me uberdad or anything. But it does explain a little as to why your " men " is more than a tad annoying. Do please take the piss out of your dp, without the generalisation? tia.

It's not necessarily unreasonable but certainly optimistic!
I sat and cried this morning at 7am (having been up all night with sick DS and then DD woke up at 5am and came down to join the fun) and DH? Fast asleep upstairs. Tired because he fell asleep on the sofa with the TV and all the lights on after too much wine and I had to get up and haul him up to bed at 1am....

AND I'm 6 months pg and have been told to rest up as I'm experiencing some scary pains...

And to top it all off, when I went to antenatal appt yesterday I told DH to call an ambulance if DS got any worse and he asked.."what are the swine flu symptoms?" and was incapable of running a tepid bath because "he didn't know how hot or how much water to put it..."

Uselss, fecking useless

Sorry, hijack over!! Ooh, I feel better now!

Aw poor dd well I would get her to complain to HIM loudly and often not to you.
You are not his mother.
Don't mother him.

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Are you Harriet Harman?

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MoonIsATiredSlayer - at this:

"I'm amazed he knew that she went swimming."

He didn't. He needed a woman to remind him. I admit my guilt on this score. Forgetful, cannot find stuff no matter how hard I look. However, as others have said I can do other stuff.

Trick is to leave all te stuff DH/DP is good at to him and not stress about the stuff he is useless at. I do it wth DW. She is just useless at anything technical like getting her computer unrozen after it crashes or gettng the broadband fixed, or anything to do with tools, or anything like a living creature (except DSs) or a plant or anything that needs cooking. We just do stuff that each is good at.

My biggest shame though is flying 1000 miles for a romantic weekend break and forgetting to bring all of DWs weekend clothes/bathing costumes.

It was a seismic event in our marriage but I quikly recovered the situation by suggesting we go shoppping for a new set of clothes.

"But I am thankful he takes him out at all so its no big thing to oversee bag packing"

BUT WHY? Why are you thankful? He is their father, he should front up and take responsibilty for them, he should take them out it's part of the job descrption!

Jeeze I know half of the fun of mumsnet is to complain about incompetent other halfs but sometimes....

Abetadad, I bet she isn't useless, I bet she just can't be bothered.

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Libras - you may well be right but of course I would never say it.

dilemma - yes DW does lists for me. I still mostly lose those though between home and the shop. You are fighting an uphill battle. Best just go to online shopping and get another man to deliver it.

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lol, my dad is a bit like that. DH on the other hand regularly takes DD swimming and packs both his own and DD's bag, she always has what she needs. I don't think it is necessarily a man thing I think some men just find things like that a bit more difficult.

Women tend to think ahead and men tend to 'live in the moment' IYSWIM.