to read DH's emails?

[GeekIsGood]

He set up our individual web email accounts so that it all comes directly to the desktop for ease of use. This means that all emails in and out are all together, like a joint bank account.

So when I open it up all the mails are together and I check through them all and often emails that come to him or me are applicable to general household stuff. Which means I read every email that comes in.

I am now in trouble for reading an email that was to do with a surprise break he's planning for my 30th. He says he looks to see if it came to my address or his and doesn't look at it if it's not his. I say if he's planning something he doesn't want me to know about he should make the effort to use an alternative email address.

He does the same with Facebook - he leaves his page open but if I read it and comment on his friends' idiotic updates I'm being intrusive.

AIBU?!

We have different addresses, he's just set it up so all the mail comes to a kind of relayed account sitting open on the desktop, so you don't have to go to the website and log in every time you want to check your email.

I also have a different web email account with a different provider from before I met him that I can use if I needed to keep things hush hush!

I wouldn't go and log in to his emails. Never occurred to me to look down the side to see which account it had come through, by the time you've looked to that degree you've probably seen most of the email anyway... bit like sticking your fingers in your ears and going 'la la la la I can't hear you'. IYSWIM.

Anyway as a couple of people said I reckon he's just worked up because I saw the email about the flights, he just doesn't think things through!

I can see why some people think it's a bit odd I suppose.

But all well in the Geek household, he seems to have got over it.

And no lovechoc we don't have a joint Facebook account! My friends are much classier than his.

I feed my gmail, yahoo and my domain mail through to microsoft outlook. We have sep accounts so just hit switch user to log into the other persons. True geekdom, own domains and a work one!

I would have read it and not noticed who it was for in your situ.

Joint email accounts: why? So weird.