To be rather pissy with my DP right now..?

[ErikaMaye]

Okay so last week there was a big thing on here about him reading what had been written. The responces from some of the people who had read it really upset and offended him, to the point where he has now relapsed with him ED. The past few days he's got more and more distant, and I've got more and more concerned, seeing it suck him in again. Earlier, he said that if I wasn't listening to him when he said he was fine, it "wasn't his problem". I text him just now saying I was sorry, but that I was just worried about him, and the reply said that he wasn't going to spend the rest of his life reassuring me when I clearly don't believe him.

I'm hurt and angry. I can't seperate the ED from him right now, and that's confusing. I'm trying not to be too angry at him, but right now I am. He says he's not pushing me away but that's exactly how it feels. AIBU or just paranoid?

i agree with last post.sounds harsh but the truth often is.

erika is this going to be another instance of him coming on to the thread getting upset and aggressive because of what is being said and demanding apologies???

if you want to change your nickname go into my mumsnet, the private profile, registration details, change your chat nickname and save the changes.

I don't think so, mrsboogie, he promised he wouldn't, and I trust him. I've done that, several times, and it doesn't save it. I tried changing my email and password as well, to see if that helped, and they wouldn't save either.

i was on the thread last week

your DP was rude and aggressive to several MNers, myself included..

he has to own his problems and his ED

if his response to stress is to relapse, he needs therapy and help, there will be a lot more stress when the baby arrives

if he won;t take it, there is nothing, i repeat, nothing you can do

i genuinely believe , there will be no happy outcome for you as as couple

sorry if that is not what you want to hear, but you should concnetrate on yourself and your baby

you can't make him better

Erika - can I just ask what you're hoping to get from MN?

If he knows your log-on of COURSE he will look again. You can trust him all you like but he WILL be looking! It would be crass stupidity to think he wouldn't be. If he's a human being - he's looking.