Ds is 3 next week & we are having his party this weekend,lots of his friends from play group are coming to it,plus his cousins.
Well just to give you a bit of history so it doesnt turn into drip feeding,DH has a younger sister & she has 2 lo's.
In laws have done everything for sil & her lo's, they have them over to sleep,play etc & buy them toys to play with at their home.Our ds has never stayed at their house & they have only ever taken him to the shop once.
We have asked them to mind him for us on numerous occasions but there always seems to be a reason not to.
DH had a word with his Dad once about it, as he was sorting out the pics on in laws pc & there was not one pic of our ds but hundreds of sils lo's.FIL said 'oh we have to help sil out more cos she has a looser for a boyf'
Admittedly he is, but why should our ds miss out on a relationship with his gp's because of that?
Anyway, in 2 weeks we are going to a friends for a bar-b-q & a catch up as some mutual friends are also coming over from Italy so we asked in laws if they would mind our ds for 3 hrs for us,they hummed & haaed & then said no they couldnt as they were looking after sils lo's that day.
No problem cos she got there first,so yesterday i was sorting out the final list for ds's party & i rung in laws to ask if sils lo's were both coming & they said 'only X is coming, Y is not' OK i think, not sure why Y isnt coming so i asked mil who was going to watch Y whilst sil was at the party & she said 'oh we are'.
So i am really disappointed that none of his gp's are going to his birthday party & i dont know why sil isnt letting Y come to the party.
SIL's eldest child had their party last month & even though i was quite ill i still managed to attend that party as did the gp's.
Am i being unreasonable to expect them to come to his party? They only have 3 gc,so surely its not that hard to treat them all the same.
Depending on the advice i get on here determines if i say anything to them about it.
Oh & DH agrees with me & he is disappointed in them also.