aibu..to be hurt that my parents say i give my baby too much attention?

[motherbeyond]

ds 2 is 17 months ans is quite clingy.he says mama alot and is very affectionate,which of course i reciprocate.we were swimming the other day and grandad was with ds2.i went to swim off to do some lengths..he noticed and shouted'mamaaa!'i laughed and said "oh,i don't know why he's such a clingy thing" and my parents gave each other knowing looks and said"yes,you do"
i was confused and said"what do you mean? no i don't"
they said that they think i give him too much attention (although they were hasty to add "not to the detriment of dd)
they've obviously spoken about this and it upset me.
i'm SAHM and give my children as much love and time as i can,whilst going about normal life.
i'm pissed off with parents for accusing me of giving too much.
aibu?

oh i definitely DO enjoy it!!!like i say, it's lovely to be loved,and i do so enjoy being covered in big dribbly kisses..delish!
know it will end one day,as you descibe morloth..at which time i will no doubt also rugby tackle them to the ground,pin them down and embarrass them with maternal displays of affection! can't wait to be an embarrassment!

Please ignore your mum.

She probably subscribes to whatever freaky baby guru was around in her day.

Babies need love and attention and clingy babies grow out of it when they are ready.

Just bear in mind motherbeyond the little buggers are fast so you may need to start training .

YABU to feel hurt. YANBU to disagree with what they said. I am sure that they discussed it not to be hyper critical, but out of concern and love for you. You are perfectly at liberty to disagree with their conclusions, which may well be completely wrong (or may have a grain or truth - who is to say).

I hope that in future I don't have to walk on egg shells with my dd or d-i-l, and can say what is on my mind with the expectation that dd or future d-i-l will put me straight if they disagree, ....rather than brood on it resentfully

Just wanted to say that i hear what your saying Motherbeyond.

My mum asked me the other day when was i going to stop "mollycoddling" my DS (who is 3 next week) just because he wanted a hug from me because hed done something good! I asked her what i should have done, pushed him away and made it seem like i wasnt pleased with him?

My DS doesnt speak yet so he IS very touchy feely with me and wants hugs for good things and hugs me if i do something nice for him , it just really pissed me off that she commented on it. She just said "you'll regret it" - my reply was that of a very sulky 14 year old responsing with "whatever!"

sorry about the delay morloth been at the gym all day.took your advice,been pumping iron ,on the running machine,step-aerobics...feelin' buff..there's no way they'll be able to out run me now..mwooaa haha!

hmc..don't worry, i definitely did let them know that i disagreed with them,i'm not one to keep it buttoned when i'm pissed off..to my own detriment on occasion!
but, am a softy at heart (all talk and no trousers, as they say) and couldn't help being hurt by their comment.

It's hard not to be hurt, but try not to take it personally, just remember they are old farts who have old-fashioned outdated ideas on child-rearing (say that to yourself whenever they disagree with you).