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AIBU?

To expect MIL to NOT read my family calendar?

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WednesdaysChild · 26/07/2009 16:24

She came round with FIL then under the pretence of checking which day a family birthday will fall on (it was only 4 days away FGS!) she pulled out my family calendar and stood reading it! Felt a bit

I do not have the most fascinating life to warrant that kind of interest but I do have one or two personal entries on it, which is why it is not pinned up on the wall.

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edam · 26/07/2009 17:21


I'm sure between us MNers can come up with an eye-opening list that will either teach MIL a lesson or give you all a real laugh. Love 'nice arse'.

If you get a month to view, you could write '9.30, windowcleaner, remember change sheets' every Friday...
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Nappyzoneisabeetrootrunner · 26/07/2009 17:23

oh i would defo do the calendar thing - you can print a sheet of t'internet and go for your creative life . In fact i am inspired to do one myself for when mil ever babysits!

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LynetteScavo · 26/07/2009 17:27

I'm not getting the not reading cards thing. I usually do it when I've been left alone in the room while the other person puts on the kettle. Am I being really rude?

Actually, reading MIL's birthday cards I found out her and her husbands secret names for each other. DH and I were narly crying when she came back in to the living room.

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Hormonesnomore · 26/07/2009 17:28

This is why I took my calendar off the wall.

My mum would casually glance at it, then ask 'why are you going to the doctor on Thursday?' Ok, I'd probably have told her anyway, but I did feel it was an intrusion. I know it was on public display, but only so DH & DCs could be reminded of appointments etc.

I would suggest writing cryptic things in code or another language perhaps? Hmm a diary entirely in French - very educational

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edam · 26/07/2009 17:32

Lynette, you have to share!

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pointydog · 26/07/2009 17:39

I love readin g other people's calendars.

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WednesdaysChild · 26/07/2009 17:41

Spose I could make cryptic entries refering to MN threads of the day....

wine every night.

Forbidden.

BumSex...AGAIN! lol (FYI: Never been there)

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pointydog · 26/07/2009 17:51

Instead of a calendar, face down, under a pile of rubbish, you need a diary. To keep safely in your bag

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Hormonesnomore · 26/07/2009 17:52

Ok, I'll admit, I'd read any calendar or card, but I wouldn't comment on it. It would really piss me off though if it was cryptic.

Secret names? Ooh, are they rude?

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Fanjita · 26/07/2009 18:42

The gasman started looking through my calendar when he came to repair the boiler I'm liking the idea of putting down interesting appointments and little messages on the calendar for other readers

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motherbeyond · 27/07/2009 15:17

my ILS are SOO nosy, my FIL once read a text. i was fuming .
they are always snooping and see it as their right.they are of the mind dh is their child,so when we married I became their child too,and my business is their business!!! they definitely have read opened letters in envelopes...and i know they've had a look in the bathroom cabinet!

i've already told my dh the next time they come i'm planning to buy the biggest dildo i can find and put it in there.makes me pmsl just to imagine MIL as she came face to face with it..i might turn it on just before she arrives so she goes in search of the humming sound!
i think she'd call the priest to have me exorcised!

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spiralqueen · 27/07/2009 17:15

YANBU. This could have something to do with my ex DP's mother who used to come round and go through the kitchen cupboards and make a list of what we needed so we could go and get it. (Never asked what we were planning to cook or if we minded for that matter)

Edam That's brill - I'd definitely go with the fake calendar on the wall and the proper one (locked) away.

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WednesdaysChild · 27/07/2009 20:43

Edam: Got it now! For summer hols projects kids will be making nice paintings or scrapbooks while I get down to creating the perfect calendar.....

Front page an inocent enough M&S calendar style, followed by American Firemen with Hose type pics! Also attach an Anne Summers catalogue cut-out here and there.

OR Is there a trade magazine that produces a calendar of retirement homes?

MB: Think mine kind of assumed I would become a daughter too. FYI they are lovely in many ways but....

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