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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to get stressy at dd coz she refuses to have her ears pierced?

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stitchtime · 26/07/2009 15:14

LOL, cant believe i am so annoyed at her.
history
i had my ears peirced aged six, come from a society where girls ears are pierced young, but mom didnt want her baby girls poked with needles. she took us all to have them together when she found out about safer, in her opinion guns. had i not had them pierced then,i wouldnt have had them done later, as i am a wimp.

fast forward to dd. i dont want anyone poking holes into her. ds's have been told they can have their ears pierced age 35, but dd that she can have them done age 16, but i always felt that i would relent aged 11 if she really really wants them

then she finds out that i was six when i had mine done. so she wants hers. i dont. we end up getting me a second piercing to see how much it would hurt. on her insistence. she stood there, holding my hand, coz i didnt want them done, but she can be a bossy little miss. this was easter time. now its the summer holidays, and she has changed her mind. wont have them done. lol, now i 'm miffed that she made me have mine pierced, and wont have hers done.

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5inthebed · 26/07/2009 17:06

Lets just hope you don't have any tattoos

I think people should lighten up and read the OP again. It's quite a funny story, no judging required.

bibbitybobbityhat · 26/07/2009 17:12

God this thread is a perfect example of how sense of humour varies widely from person to person.

I get your op stitchtime (no connection to the poster known as Stitch are you?) and thought it was a funny story. And others have too.

Don't be disheartened by the ones who seem to have missed the point.

Stayingsunnygirl · 26/07/2009 18:31

Well - I am one of those who missed the point. Was it a joke/made-up story? If not, what's funny about a small girl manipulating her mother into a piercing she didn't actually want? What's funny about a mum setting a limit and stating that she had no intention of sticking to it?

If you say 'No' and don't mean it, you are setting yourself up for problems.

edam · 26/07/2009 19:15

You don't have to take life quite so seriously, stayingsunny... it is possible to be a little playful sometimes, even rueful, and STILL be a good parent.

Stayingsunnygirl · 26/07/2009 20:10

I shall have to point out this thread to ds1 the next time he says that I need to grow up and act my age!

PixiNanny · 26/07/2009 20:37

It's a bit odd, but I'd be more proud of your dd than miffed

Though saying that, I see nothing wrong with kids making their own decision on it, I'd say in time for high school as long as they understand about cleaning it and whatnot, I think 16 is a bit ott for a first ear piercing, but anymore piercings should wait until 16! I was 16 when I had my second holes done, and 19 when I had cartilidge done last year; my second holes are still there though took years to heal, and my cartilidge (can I even spell that?!) was removed a few months ago because it was still painful and seeping I now have a bump there too

OnlyWantsOne · 26/07/2009 20:41

YABU

you didnt want her to have them done.... go figure, smart kid

Fimbo · 26/07/2009 20:41

My dd is 11 and has had hers pierced for about 2 weeks now. We passed Claires yesterday where a little girl was sitting proud as punch on the stool while the mother was signing the consent form. My dd said "I am so glad we didn't get mine done there for all to see, poor little girl".

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy · 26/07/2009 20:51

yawn - how old are you?

PixiNanny · 26/07/2009 20:59

Fimbo, had to say, I hate that about claires! And they aren't even properly trained half the time and don't know how to deal with customers who come back with problems! I hate walking past a claire's store with the piercing station in the window (most of them...) because there's always some kid on the verge of tears. Why can't parents be proper and go get them done at a piercing studio, where the earring about to go in aren't left on the side where they are touched and played with by everyone?

Fimbo · 26/07/2009 21:01

Pixi - I so agree. I took dd to our local spa/beauty salon place which is in a hotel. So private room with couch etc. It cost £13.50, I doubt Claire's is much less than that although I noticed they had 20% off yesterday.

PixiNanny · 26/07/2009 21:06

My second set were done in a piercing/tattoo parlor, though my first set were done when I was a kid and I vaguely remember being in the back of a jewellers My cartilidge was done in another tattoo parlour too, they were really lovely, spent a proper amount of time with me explaining cleaning, told me about aftercare and she even gave me their number and her contact details when I explained that I lived on site and worked 6 days a week and offered to have extra saline sent to me, etc. I doubt claire's would have offered the same service!

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stitchtime · 26/07/2009 21:19

thank you for your soh, and support ladies.
yes, i am stitch. not a very good disguise i'm afraid. and essay going terribly. well, that one sorted. i was just brainstorming ideas. this one going not well at all.

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