God, that is so out of order, OP. I am really with you on this one. He sounds just like my OP. They just don't see themselves as part of the equation when it comes to a situation where the kids are ill.
My DH has been working away/very late for the past 3 weeks. He had 2 nights out arranged on 2 weekends running which was fine, he hadn't had some down time with his mates in ages. DS2 was ill between the 2 nights out - vomiting etc, in bed with me at night so I was getting no sleep. Then I got the world's worst cold and felt grotty myself. Still, I was happy for him to go out on the second night out (well, it was a day really - he was out all afternoon and early evening). DS2 still in bed with me at night so I wasn't getting any sleep. I assumed he would be fine with me lying in 2 mornings on the trot last weekend seeing as he'd had his "me time" and restful nights without a sick 3 year old vomiting on him and I was feeling ill, but all I got from him at my understandable grumpy mood the next day through exhaustion and just feeling crap was just a dig: "What's up with you? Haven't you had enough lie-ins this week?"
It was infuriating. I really don't think they understand what it's like to be on your own with a sick child for days on end, stuck in the house, esp when you are ill yourself. The reason is because they don't ever have to do it. We get stuck with it because we are the mums and for some reason it's assumed that mums are the main carers of sick children.
I am so with you on this one and feel your annoyance!!!!
FWIW, my DH is a great dad and DH normally, as I bet your's is. What is WRONG with them that they can't see the right way to behave in a situation like this?
I would be especially annoyed because of the swine flu thing. Who knows what turn your LO could take - need taking to A&E or whatever, and where is your DH? On the piss..... sorry, I'm getting all irate for you now......