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To dream of seperate beds.

62 replies

skybright · 24/07/2009 11:41

After 10 years together i would love to have my own pretty bedroom,in which i could have the light on as late as i wanted and not be subjected to a sweaty farting man who makes the pillows stink and coughs in my face in his sleep.

Unreasonable do you think?

OP posts:
SolidGoldBrass · 24/07/2009 18:57

Aaaahhh, the joys of being single. Envy me, all of you (until the morning when DS jumps into bed with me and then announces that he has wet his bed and pyjamas...)

asicsgirl · 24/07/2009 19:00

solidgold

NormaSknockers · 24/07/2009 19:09

YANBU!

DH & I sleep in the same bed but we have seperate duvets as I got utterly fed up with him moaning at me for pinching the covers

MitchyInge · 24/07/2009 19:14

ahhhh for this reason I remain single and say a loving goodbye after doing the sexuals - I don't even want to share my HOUSE let alone my bedroom

MitchyInge · 24/07/2009 19:14

share with a man I mean, obviously I share the house with my children and various furry animals

ludog · 24/07/2009 19:15

Oh yes please...I would love my own room. No more wandering hand at 5am ever hopeful of a kind reception! We are together 20 years this month...how long will it take for dh to realise that I don't "do" mornings (or I don't "do him in the mornings!!")

MrsWeasley · 24/07/2009 19:16

skybright: Are you having an affair with my DH?

pointydog · 24/07/2009 19:23

what does teh op's dp do to his pillows?

notevenamousie · 24/07/2009 19:24

Sharing a bed puts me off finding a NM....

Metella · 24/07/2009 19:30

I know someone who has her own room - she has it soooo beautifully decorated and it is just for her.

GeneHunt · 24/07/2009 19:34

I have had my own bedroom for the last ten years. We have ahem an active love life but I retire to my own pretty room most nights. I have an antique cast-iron bed with a white bedspread on, Laura Ashley rosebud wall paper on one wall, restful apple blossom green paint on the other and a mirrored dressing table. My other furniture is shabby-chic gorgeousness and I often fall asleep with the light on. Bliss

My lovely dh wakes me up everyday by banging on the wall of his room with a teaspoon to let me know my cup of tea is ready. I then get in with him as he has a telly in his room. I think we are the most civilised couple ever.

pointydog · 24/07/2009 19:35

do men really like being apart? Is it a woman thing?

Spidermama · 24/07/2009 19:37

I'm with you.

DH is away at the moment and my bed is lovely, crisp, white and fragrant. I swish in there at night feeling fabulous.

Normally it's greasy, slightly whiffy and contains him.

I would love a room of my own.

Spidermama · 24/07/2009 19:38

Genehunt.

pointydog · 24/07/2009 19:39

I don't think dh is any muckier than me.

Granny23 · 24/07/2009 19:44

We have opted for two singles pushed together. This does not help with the snoring but does solve the shares of the duvet issue and allows for changing his bed covers twice as often as mine. Best of all I no longer kick him or wake him when my restless leg starts up. You can snuggle up very nicely in twins but have to beware of the gap in the middle which can widen unexpectedly, creating a 'did the earth move for you' moment.

MitchyInge · 24/07/2009 19:46

my mum always had her own room and my grandmother was mysteriously single despite churning out lots of babies over the years (passing herself off as a widow but we found out she'd never married, the appalling tart) so I suppose it's learned behaviour to cherish my space, or possibly genetic freakery?

GeneHunt · 24/07/2009 19:47

We started sleeping in our own rooms when I was night feeding the babies. I think the children 'broke' me and now I am a very light sleeper indeed. My dh is possibly less smelly than me, I may pass wind more, either way we both love to sleep alone so it works for us.

I wouldn't be adverse to one of those honking great monster beds to share but I would need to have a pretty room and I'd need to have the light on late. My dh would want to watch rude stuff about Austrians who holiday in the nude whilst he lifted weights in the corner. It would never work.

Sidge · 24/07/2009 19:52

The main bonus of DH going to sea for months on end is that I have the bedroom to myself.

No farting (well not much and not quite as eggy)

No snoring.

No elbow in the head at 0300.

No sweaty lump rolling onto me in the middle of the night.

No duvet stealing or pillow hogging.

Aaaahhhhh.

shootfromthehip · 24/07/2009 19:55

I threw DH out after DC 2 as I was fed up hearing about how many times he was being woken up with DC1. I had a blissful 4 1/2 mths of peace until I threw DC2 out and got DH back.

I go to sleep on my own every night and have been moaning about it for ages so now DH comes to bed with me which I find more irritating. He too has a wandering hand / appendage and 'jumps' as he falls asleep which is a bit scary. He also likes to have a wee chat, completely waking me up and then he promptly falls asleep.

Wish I had my own room.

pointydog · 24/07/2009 19:55

crikey, after that description of your dh's habits, all is now clear, gene

TsarChasm · 24/07/2009 19:56

Genehunt God I'm so envious it hurts!

TsarChasm · 24/07/2009 19:58

That was to your 19.34 post not the subsequent one about the norty Austrians and the weights btw

Geocentric · 24/07/2009 20:01

Another one here who went for the extra big bed option. It solved a lot of problems. The two-single-duvets-instead-of-one idea sounds really good, though, wonder if I can convince DH...

poshtottie · 24/07/2009 20:01

Another one here whose dh is at sea for months. I like having the bed to myself though I do sleep better when he is here.

I seem to hear every noise when I am alone.