Today is DDs birthday - DP works for himself, but has still gone into work - despite DDs wailing. The house is a shit hole and i have kids coming later for a party. His tools and work stuff are everywhere and im knackered having had to go to the shop with my mother yesterday (another story).
Im not pissed off with him for going to work, I really could have used an extra pair of hands, if only just to keep DD occupied while i get everything ready. Instead she is whining for someone to play with, while i make cakes, tidy up, etc etc. But DP says to me this am "if YOU really need me to have the day off and help i will" But it was said in such a way that i knew it would be a big deal and that he would get stressed. Also he had already texted the client to say he was going to be there so actually the offer was empty because he knew he couldnt have the day off actually.
Is that what people mean by passive aggression? Being put in a situation where i have to say "no dear, dont worry, you go to work i'll manage".
My mum rang and offered to help, i said yes please - she said, what can i do - i said, keep DD occupied while i sort stuff out. Her voice changed and said "oh, well, um, ok but i will have to take the dog out first" Her idea of taking the dog out is a three mile walk, so wont see her until the party starts i shouldnt wonder.
AIBU to feel a tad put upon?