I'm an English teacher and my son is 3.5. He can read fluently but I haven't pushed him at all. He LOVES reading and reads everything in sight all the time. Why would I hold him back? We are all bookworms in our house.I have made a point of using the same phonics system as the school he will be attending though he definitely uses sight reading rather than phonics.
At the same time his writing is virtually non-existent. He can write his name but is very reluctant to do it. I haven't pushed it at all as I think pushy parenting does more harm than good.
I am now concerned, however, that the reading thing is going to cause problems for him at school. The school he'll be attending is in a deprived area. Loads of kids are English as a second language so the chance of there being many like him is unlikely.I hadn't been worried about it until we went to his future school and I mentioned that he has a reading age of 7. The teacher looked at me, ignored my comment and then went on talking. If DS was a 'good' boy who would sit through all the phonics lessons again without misbehaving, I wouldn't worry.
Unfortunately, once he knows something, he is done with it and on to the next thing. He is also very hyper, demanding and can be difficult.
I have horrible visions of the rest of the class doing their phonics work whilst my son ends up on the class naughty spot or whatever they use nowadays as there is no way he'll accept sitting through activities which are not stimulating enough. So, from that perspective, I can see his being a fluent reader not being such a bonus at all! I'll just have to wait and see how he gets on. I d
I do think that this would be ultimately be a failure on the school's part, however, I am very sure that the best time for a child to learn to read is when they show a desire to do so.