Doubting myself now . tell me the truth .

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First time on AIBU . so be gentle thanks .
just had cross with H (not going to say DH as he is not ) I have just asked my 10 year old son to topen the oven and to check that something is not burning . I did not ask him to touch the food or the racks in the oven . I just asked him to open the oven door abit to check . My H said that I was stupid and that he could have burnt him self . when is he going to stop babying him

Crikey at 10 YANBU

My 10 year son opens the oven all the time to look at what is in there. (I don't tell him to, he just does). Hasn't once burnt himself.

My 15 year old can cook, do his own washing, iron his own clothes, hoover, wash up, tidy a room (all to an adult standard and make a great cup of tea.

This all had to start somewhere. He didnt just learn it yesterday. I started teaching him these things gradually.

IMO children do not suddenly become old enough to do things. Like any other milestone they aquire the skills gradually.

So long way of saying YANBU. You son is perfectly old enough to open an oven with your knowledge. He may have got a bit of a hot blast but it wouldnt of damaged him and he would have learnt that ovens give out hot blasts when they are opened.

Does your H have an overbearingindulgent mother who did everything for him when he lived at home?

Not saying that would be an excuse... but may be an explanation.

Given the choice I think most women would rather have a DH who can look after himself (cooking, cleaning, ironing etc)... so YANBU.

YANBU. Last night DS1 asked for a sandwich for supper. I told him that at almost 12yo he should be more than capable of getting it himself, after all, says I, other MNers kids are making omlettes at age 8.

OK, he says, he will make a fried egg sarnie.

So, I let him, and he burnt the pan quite well (no oil) but managed.

DH thinks it is scandalous and irresponsible that DC are forced to cook at that age, that it's dangerous etc.

Load of toss!!

DS1 will be starting cooking lessons with me forthwith, as DH can barely boil water, and I refuse to be the MIL from hell one day for turning out an 'Im hungry, wifey' sort of son!!

Rant over, apologies for hijack

yanbu, he will be going to secondary school next year and doing it all in HE.