not to ring this woman back.

[maria1665]

DS (aged 11) and another boy have been together through school, although boy has bullied DS and other children throughout.

His mum is a friend of mine, though things are pretty tense re relationship between our sons. This year, DS has succeeded in making three firm friends and I am taking all four to cinema as a belated birthday treat. 'Other boy' not invited, (at DS' request) though I have always invited him in the past to birthday do's etc. DS did go to his party earlier this year.

Other boy's mum rang me last night irate that her son had not been invited, saying I had left him devastated. She then got son to ring up to ask why he had not been invited. (She's a headmistress!)

I was completely taken aback and mumbled something about not wanting to upset anyone, and I would speak to DS.

Now I am just really cross at her behaviour, and I don't feel under any obligation to ring her, or have anything more to do with her.

Am I being unreasonable?

Yes you have to ring back and say your Ds didn't want to invite him because of his violence.She might actually welcome it as a salutory lesson to her DS ?

yanbu- bullying issue aside ( and i really don;t mean that it is not important) it is not normal behaviour.

i have friends that i met through my girls. There is no requirement/expectation that our kids have to remain friends-that is their choice. When i have said only 5 friends or whatever, i mean 5 of their friends, not 5 children whose mothers i happen to be friends with.

as we are all adults we have accepted that our kids will not stay best friends, it doesn;t affect friendship. I would argue it helps because if one of wants advice re child then it is not personal.

if your friend cant see this, i think your friendship may not last.